Whynotme3, as happy as I am for you, deep down inside me I am pulling for your H, that extra, extra wish that he would be more than happy to have sex with you and show it. It is tough for us refused but on some level I suspect is even tougher (more difficult) for people like your H to get through this distancing garbage and not showing affection and desire for a sex starved spouse like yourself..
BTW, on another forum similar to ILIASM when any poster said they had a romp in bed we all posted "lucky dog" as a sign of WTG and encouragement.
Thank you so much for that. I know he has his own baggage and issues. Plus, he will be 50 next year and has been having ED issues as well which are weighing heavily on him, too. BUT he has also adamantly refused any counseling, making this likely much more challenging than it needs to be. That said, he is still fighting with me .... or so it seems, so I will continue to fight for him.
I think shynjdude most prolific post was titled "I messed up the talk have I messed up everything" (or something like that) so if you searched by story, you might fluke it.
Incidently, by the tone of his last post and his abrupt departure, I don't think it's a given that his 'turnaround' continued, though I sure hope it did.
Addendum - I just looked into the list of Sexless Marriage Threads, scrolled down a bit and there it was. Titled "I screwed up with The Talk....am I screwed?" I clicked on it and there was the thread in its' entirety.