Whynotme3, as happy as I am for you, deep down inside me I am pulling for your H, that extra, extra wish that he would be more than happy to have sex with you and show it. It is tough for us refused but on some level I suspect is even tougher (more difficult) for people like your H to get through this distancing garbage and not showing affection and desire for a sex starved spouse like yourself..
BTW, on another forum similar to ILIASM when any poster said they had a romp in bed we all posted "lucky dog" as a sign of WTG and encouragement.
Thank you so much for that. I know he has his own baggage and issues. Plus, he will be 50 next year and has been having ED issues as well which are weighing heavily on him, too. BUT he has also adamantly refused any counseling, making this likely much more challenging than it needs to be. That said, he is still fighting with me .... or so it seems, so I will continue to fight for him.
I think shynjdude most prolific post was titled "I messed up the talk have I messed up everything" (or something like that) so if you searched by story, you might fluke it.
Incidently, by the tone of his last post and his abrupt departure, I don't think it's a given that his 'turnaround' continued, though I sure hope it did.
Addendum - I just looked into the list of Sexless Marriage Threads, scrolled down a bit and there it was. Titled "I screwed up with The Talk....am I screwed?" I clicked on it and there was the thread in its' entirety.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5