Whynotme3, as happy as I am for you, deep down inside me I am pulling for your H, that extra, extra wish that he would be more than happy to have sex with you and show it. It is tough for us refused but on some level I suspect is even tougher (more difficult) for people like your H to get through this distancing garbage and not showing affection and desire for a sex starved spouse like yourself..
BTW, on another forum similar to ILIASM when any poster said they had a romp in bed we all posted "lucky dog" as a sign of WTG and encouragement.
Thank you so much for that. I know he has his own baggage and issues. Plus, he will be 50 next year and has been having ED issues as well which are weighing heavily on him, too. BUT he has also adamantly refused any counseling, making this likely much more challenging than it needs to be. That said, he is still fighting with me .... or so it seems, so I will continue to fight for him.
I think shynjdude most prolific post was titled "I messed up the talk have I messed up everything" (or something like that) so if you searched by story, you might fluke it.
Incidently, by the tone of his last post and his abrupt departure, I don't think it's a given that his 'turnaround' continued, though I sure hope it did.
Addendum - I just looked into the list of Sexless Marriage Threads, scrolled down a bit and there it was. Titled "I screwed up with The Talk....am I screwed?" I clicked on it and there was the thread in its' entirety.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
Apr 25, 2019 20:10:25 GMT -5
h: The videos posted aren't attached. They are links to videos outside the site.
Apr 26, 2019 14:09:04 GMT -5
sexlessinga: Hi guys just joined
May 10, 2019 20:49:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: @mslowmaintenance….long time no see, welcome back...
May 29, 2019 9:30:25 GMT -5
noregretz: You can never outrun a Grizzly bear, but that's ok. You only have to outrun the person you're with....
Jun 15, 2019 12:28:09 GMT -5
solodriver: or in this case your refuser.
Jun 16, 2019 19:21:47 GMT -5