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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2018 10:01:23 GMT -5
"Because she misinterpreted a compliment he gave her"--My years of reading ( and own experience) tells me there's a whole lot more to that story than she ( the refuser) will ever want to admit to. To herself or anyone else. There is where the lack of communication comes in, and the deceptive manipulation begins. It takes BOTH people to honestly communicate. That requires submitting, giving, and being able to give some control to another. To risk being vulnerable by placing trust in another. To agree to disagree, while moving forward in a way that both are receiving. Something many of our partners will never be capable of. I am glad your friend has pressing on and moving forward! ( Here's to new beginnings!) "It takes BOTH people to honestly communicate. That requires submitting, giving, and being able to give some control to another. To risk being vulnerable by placing trust in another." THIS! 100%!! ❤❤
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Post by carl on Dec 17, 2018 14:21:24 GMT -5
Taking about issues is important if your partner finds it difficult to express themselves or there is something they need to talk about. I used to try, but it just seemed to feed her sense of self importance. She would use it as an opportunity to criticise me. And if I start the conversation I feel on such low ground that I don’t want to. Sounds like we don’t get on but the odd thing is we do a lot of the time. Yeah but talkings got to help some people.
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