The original question was,” if your partner WANTED regular sex”, WANT, to me ,imply’s desire. If my wife desired or wanted sex, I would give it to her, enthusiastically I might add,because I still love her after 30 years of marriage.
I’m hearing a lot of conditions, in this thread. He would have to...... or she would have to...... If your partners physical or mental issues magically disappeared over night and they desired (or were able to) have sex wit you would you give it to them? My answer- YOUR DAMN RIGHT I WOULD!!!!!
To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under the sun.
baza, the way I see it, having sex with the spouse feels like Charlie Brown, Lucy and the Football.
Also intimacy is about chemistry and if the chemistry is gone it cam be just humping and still feeling like an outsider.
I also have read some sexless relationships never recover even if regular sex starts again and there is usually a very awkward time period if and when a sexual relationship is resumed. I have read both good and not so god stories about sex returning to the relationship.
I'd love to have a full-on, carnal relationship with my husband. However, with all circumstances considered, I'd wonder: Is this out of pity, duty, or guilt? Is he doing this because he loves me, because he wants me?
I'm so jaded, I have to put the first clause in the "conditional perfect" tense: I would have loved to have a full-on carnal relationship with my spouse.
It just isn't there any more. I have those same questions (as @andie), and they are a huge libido killer when I start to consider them.
1) I think at this point: I just don't trust her. I think I would view any advance on her part as simply a placating gesture to keep me around.
2) And, worse: I think I'm 100% stuck this way. In other words, I can't imagine she has ANY chance of changing my mind on #1.
I think that means... the marriage is over. Right?
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5