I completely understand where you are right now. This was me in 2013. We had so many trust issues. Thinking knowledge is power, I began collecting forensic information from his phone and laptop. What I found led me to what his issues were with me, how we could recover, and how to deal with my issues with him. It took a long-ass time and a shit-ton of work. Neither one of us are perfect, but we trust each other now.
Through hard work, both on ourselves, our careers, our home and relationships, we've built quite a life together. I don't want to give mine up either.
What scares me about your post, is it sounds like neither of you trust the other. I don't have to tell you this can lead down some vicious paths. Please be careful.
I'm here lurking and just wanted to thank everyone who shares their experiences, opinions and advice. I've been married to the greatest, most beautiful woman in the world for the past 30; the past decade has been sexless by her choice. The rejection hurts, as you all know. The anger builds up from time to time; particularly after an abrupt rejection. I'm ashamed of taking things into my own hands. I'll never outsource, though I think of it quite often. I work at a major university, around 20,000 coeds in the prime of their physical life. Too often, one gets a crush on her professor and follows me around flirtatiously.
But, I'm staying. My wife is magnificent in most every other way. I am accustomed to "doing without" due to my upbringing. We made a promise to each other (which I admit she has broken). I will be sad and frustrated, but I will also be happy and in love. Just sexless.
I don't judge anyone here or their decision. I just wanted to throw my decision into the discussion as another take on staying or going.
Rhapsodee is staying and making the best of the situation.
Would be very interested in hearing the secrets of your staying successfully.
This year it got to be too much for me to handle anymore. I realize my situation is never going to get much better (if at all) and I don't want to spend my remaining years alone, suffering in a SM. I need love, companionship, excitement and new lover(s).
Right now it's very tough day to day, but I have an exit plan I'm working on I'm pushing on. I think I'm going through the hardest part right now, just waiting for the countdown clock to get to launch time. I think of the many hours before launch the astronauts have to wait in anticipation for the trip. I'm feeling the same way right now. I have to keep whispering to myself "patience, must be patient".
It’s hard to continue to love someone romantically who doesn’t love you back in the way you need to feel like a whole person.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
Apr 25, 2019 20:10:25 GMT -5
h: The videos posted aren't attached. They are links to videos outside the site.
Apr 26, 2019 14:09:04 GMT -5
sexlessinga: Hi guys just joined
May 10, 2019 20:49:28 GMT -5