Post by northstarmom on Apr 5, 2019 21:39:41 GMT -5
handy said: "So, I have to decide if I want to fight back or just ignore her nasty comments and just tell her "what ever" or something less passive aggressive like "I see your point" or "yea-OK" and continue on about my own business."
The more productive decision would be to decide whether it's worth it to spend the rest of your life living with such a woman. You don't seem to think you deserve better than being with a woman who treats you like shit.
NSM, most of my life I have done things for other people. A few people do things for me. One issue I have is I am sort of like that guy that gave you the printer. I have often operated under the thoughts that I had to earn at least part of a friendship or be of some type of value to someone I want to be friends with. Sometimes I might even reject someone doing something for or with me mostly over this idea I need to earn it, but earn it on what I see as valuable. That is my equivalent to a Lucy's psychiatry booth answer.
Yes it would be more productive spending less time over thinking the current situation and make better plans for MY future.
Post by northstarmom on Apr 6, 2019 6:42:21 GMT -5
Handy, you can choose to change. It’s not easy but it’s possible if you allow yourself to realize that giving and giving to others who treat you like shit is not in your interest and is allowing you to be stuck in a life that isn’t what you want. If you choose to change, you will have support here.
Post by greatcoastal on Apr 6, 2019 9:34:28 GMT -5
Just a side note: When it comes to "change" I think about my elderly parents/relatives and the time in their life when "the big change" came down to deciding to move to a retirement home. The plus was ,all the new people to communicate with daily, instead of the one rejector you have been with ,dealing with for far to long.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5