Post by northstarmom on Apr 5, 2019 21:39:41 GMT -5
handy said: "So, I have to decide if I want to fight back or just ignore her nasty comments and just tell her "what ever" or something less passive aggressive like "I see your point" or "yea-OK" and continue on about my own business."
The more productive decision would be to decide whether it's worth it to spend the rest of your life living with such a woman. You don't seem to think you deserve better than being with a woman who treats you like shit.
NSM, most of my life I have done things for other people. A few people do things for me. One issue I have is I am sort of like that guy that gave you the printer. I have often operated under the thoughts that I had to earn at least part of a friendship or be of some type of value to someone I want to be friends with. Sometimes I might even reject someone doing something for or with me mostly over this idea I need to earn it, but earn it on what I see as valuable. That is my equivalent to a Lucy's psychiatry booth answer.
Yes it would be more productive spending less time over thinking the current situation and make better plans for MY future.
Post by northstarmom on Apr 6, 2019 6:42:21 GMT -5
Handy, you can choose to change. It’s not easy but it’s possible if you allow yourself to realize that giving and giving to others who treat you like shit is not in your interest and is allowing you to be stuck in a life that isn’t what you want. If you choose to change, you will have support here.
Post by greatcoastal on Apr 6, 2019 9:34:28 GMT -5
Just a side note: When it comes to "change" I think about my elderly parents/relatives and the time in their life when "the big change" came down to deciding to move to a retirement home. The plus was ,all the new people to communicate with daily, instead of the one rejector you have been with ,dealing with for far to long.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5