Un-Learning Aug 19, 2017 19:59:21 GMT -5 via mobile
Post by Caris on Aug 19, 2017 19:59:21 GMT -5
awakeforthedance included, "trust." Think this is also critical in the un/learning process. Trusting ones' self, trusting others, etc.
It might be easy to fall back into habits. For example, I'm not used to a partner wanting to talk through things. Roommate avoids difficult conversations, while AP embraces them. It's not always easy to tackle tough subjects, but there is this great result in doing so: resolution, to each person's satisfaction.
I was going to post this in a separate thread, but think it has relevance here; it's Brene Brown on how to share one's perspective in a healthy way, "the story I'm making up:"
I'll let you all know when I use it... In fact, I can think of a good reason to, right now, with the roommate who is still avoiding topic of separation (we need to talk because I paid for 3 airfares to Hawaii for me and the girls; he needs to know about this, right?). ;-)
You hit the nail on the head for me re the "trust." I need to trust a man before...actually I'm not sure what comes after that. Trust enough for what...to disclose more about myself, become intimate, share my concerns and fears? I suppose all the above, but also trusting myself, and that's the big revelation that I don't trust myself. I don't trust that all my dragons will come rising to the surface if I allow myself to become close to someone. In fact, I'm sure they will come out breathing fire, and it would take someone who was so attracted to me to want to stick around in the first place. Being that I clam up and need my space if a man compliments my physical attributes, how I overcome this alone, that's one issue I don't know how to solve, and I'm so damn lonely with no partner, no back up, no one to hold me, but maybe I'm so far gone, it's unsolvable.