Post by LITW on Apr 19, 2016 13:16:45 GMT -5
Same here! From the Christian angle, since that's what your latest post and many of the others are about--one of the things I dread the most is how my friends at church and other Christian friends are going to react. Our congregation is tiny and has been struggling to stay afloat for a number of years. They are wonderful people and have the best of intentions, but this upcoming divorce could well end up causing a major rift and be what causes them to finally close their doors. They will want to know why he and I are divorcing. And why didn't we come to one of them for help? I will not want to tell and he won't either. Even those with the best of intentions will likely end up taking sides. The truth is the one thing that would shut *some* of them up. Others, not so much, and you've talked about that at length because they just don't understand, flashjohn. And don't you know "God hates divorce"? Mind you the context of that passage is God using marriage as a metaphor for his relationship to Israel and there were actually provisions for divorce in the Bible, but I digress....
Apr 15, 2016 2:24:18 GMT -5 @zumbamami said:Your blog gives me hope, flashjohn. Thanks for being so incredibly open and honest. I'm truly amazed and awed by your candor.
My kids and I will need to seek out another church. It may very well be what finally does this little congregation in and makes us dissolve. The dying breath of a church that has a 135 year tradition. A Christian friend of mine online who still struggles with guilt over her first husband killing himself after she left him (and she left him for very valid reasons), said about this (the church possibly dissolving) when I confided in her, "Oh, wouldn't Satan love that?" Great, yet another Christian friend who has bought into the Marriage Saving Industrial Complex (TM). Pressure, anyone? Lololol
One of the things I like the most about this community is that there are Christians here, and the Christian perspective is considered valid. It never failed whenever I would post on EP about my situation, someone would reply along the lines of "... but I see you are a Christian, so you are hopeless"
Christians have a history of valuing the institution of marriage over the people in it, but that is not always the case. Find a church that teaches from the Bible, and not from the denomination headquarters. I found such a church 5 years ago, and and have been happily volunteering and attending there ever since. It is the first church I have been to where I felt the leadership really "got" the teachings of Jesus. No church is perfect, but no church should EVER exclude people from attending because of some mistake they made now or in the past. A good place to start is look up a church that has a "divorce care" class and try them.