I'm still "in the closet" re: dealing with my SM; she knows it is an issue, but not about how we are dangerously plodding steadily toward a divorce. I guess I figure she should hear it from me before some mutual acquaintance sees my pic and asks her what's that about. So, no, no photo as my avatar at this time. Probably would be willing once I move on.
However, I have been told recently: "I think you did a good job depicting yourself in your cartoon avatar!"
So with that, you should be apparently be able to pick me out of a crowd... here, click this and look for me in this:
When I came to EP and discovered that my stbx's feelings about sex/intimacy/connection had very little to do with what I was or wasn't doing.... I had to make a decision. Was I prepared to continue pretending that we had a good relationship or was I going to own my future in a way that was genuine? It really wasn't a question since I suck at pretense. I talked to friends, family and anyone on the forum that would listen...and I told him what the group was about. Learning to be honest with myself and not feel ashamed was my goal. Saying that this is what I'm dealing with, this is my life, this is what I think, this is how I feel, is the only way I know how to do that. For me, posting my picture was a big part of saying "I am enough". Even though I had no idea that was what I needed at the time, it felt right. Doing that small thing just for me was an important part of reclaiming myself. My journey is unique - do what feels right for you.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5