I'm still "in the closet" re: dealing with my SM; she knows it is an issue, but not about how we are dangerously plodding steadily toward a divorce. I guess I figure she should hear it from me before some mutual acquaintance sees my pic and asks her what's that about. So, no, no photo as my avatar at this time. Probably would be willing once I move on.
However, I have been told recently: "I think you did a good job depicting yourself in your cartoon avatar!"
So with that, you should be apparently be able to pick me out of a crowd... here, click this and look for me in this:
When I came to EP and discovered that my stbx's feelings about sex/intimacy/connection had very little to do with what I was or wasn't doing.... I had to make a decision. Was I prepared to continue pretending that we had a good relationship or was I going to own my future in a way that was genuine? It really wasn't a question since I suck at pretense. I talked to friends, family and anyone on the forum that would listen...and I told him what the group was about. Learning to be honest with myself and not feel ashamed was my goal. Saying that this is what I'm dealing with, this is my life, this is what I think, this is how I feel, is the only way I know how to do that. For me, posting my picture was a big part of saying "I am enough". Even though I had no idea that was what I needed at the time, it felt right. Doing that small thing just for me was an important part of reclaiming myself. My journey is unique - do what feels right for you.
misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
Oct 22, 2018 16:25:07 GMT -5
jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
Oct 22, 2018 19:52:59 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
Oct 22, 2018 20:00:25 GMT -5
solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
Oct 22, 2018 20:58:28 GMT -5
isthisit: Apologies for being a techno numpty- can anyone help me to send a PM? When I choose the member as a recipient the error message indicating a staff member is required. Eh?
Nov 6, 2018 15:03:40 GMT -5
solodriver: isthisit you cannot send PMs until your membership changes to member
Nov 6, 2018 21:41:58 GMT -5
isthisit: Thanks solodriver and shynjdude for your replies. Is there some info somewhere about these divisions? I have had a mooch around and haven't come across it yet.
Nov 8, 2018 10:22:28 GMT -5
solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
Nov 8, 2018 21:52:19 GMT -5