I'm still "in the closet" re: dealing with my SM; she knows it is an issue, but not about how we are dangerously plodding steadily toward a divorce. I guess I figure she should hear it from me before some mutual acquaintance sees my pic and asks her what's that about. So, no, no photo as my avatar at this time. Probably would be willing once I move on.
However, I have been told recently: "I think you did a good job depicting yourself in your cartoon avatar!"
So with that, you should be apparently be able to pick me out of a crowd... here, click this and look for me in this:
When I came to EP and discovered that my stbx's feelings about sex/intimacy/connection had very little to do with what I was or wasn't doing.... I had to make a decision. Was I prepared to continue pretending that we had a good relationship or was I going to own my future in a way that was genuine? It really wasn't a question since I suck at pretense. I talked to friends, family and anyone on the forum that would listen...and I told him what the group was about. Learning to be honest with myself and not feel ashamed was my goal. Saying that this is what I'm dealing with, this is my life, this is what I think, this is how I feel, is the only way I know how to do that. For me, posting my picture was a big part of saying "I am enough". Even though I had no idea that was what I needed at the time, it felt right. Doing that small thing just for me was an important part of reclaiming myself. My journey is unique - do what feels right for you.
frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatable
Aug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tomorrow is Labor Day 2019, no big plans for the day....thinking seriously of going commando
Sept 1, 2019 11:37:07 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey ironhamster...I just saw your picture on another site and your head wasn't covered. You actually look better without the bandana....
Sept 2, 2019 11:54:55 GMT -5
javba: Dunno Iron Hamster - I have not seen your other photo - I think you ROCK anyways.
Sept 4, 2019 10:11:42 GMT -5