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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 8, 2018 11:02:04 GMT -5
I sold all of my inheritance IRA this weekend. It was supposed to be a nothing. Moving money. Wiring money, buying a home.
Instead it was down right difficult. So many unchartered waters for me.
When have I ever called Charles Schwab and traded stocks on the market? NEVER!
It wasn't so bad. I did %90 of it on my own, yet I was plauged with doubt and uncomfortable feelings about the whole thing!
Stocks that I never heard of, companies with abreviations that I still don't know what the heck it stood for!
Just pushing bottons and watching tens of thousands of dollars get sold. Wondering, what am I doing?
Like ending my SM. Years of investments just gone, sold.
And now reinvested in real estate.
It took me 24hrs to realize theres a whole lot more than just "reinvesting in money going on.
I'm seeing the value and worth that I am as a person and reinvesting it again.
I'm reinvesting back into:
My children
Myself
My home
My career
My location
My lifestyle
My personality
My behavior.
My values and beliefs.
Some of these are the same, only I don't have to be hidden, there's a lot more freedom to be true to myself.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 9, 2018 7:54:27 GMT -5
I sold all of my inheritance IRA this weekend. It was supposed to be a nothing. Moving money. Wiring money, buying a home. Instead it was down right difficult. So many unchartered waters for me. When have I ever called Charles Schwab and traded stocks on the market? NEVER! It wasn't so bad. I did %90 of it on my own, yet I was plauged with doubt and uncomfortable feelings about the whole thing! Stocks that I never heard of, companies with abreviations that I still don't know what the heck it stood for! Just pushing bottons and watching tens of thousands of dollars get sold. Wondering, what am I doing? Like ending my SM. Years of investments just gone, sold. And now reinvested in real estate. It took me 24hrs to realize theres a whole lot more than just "reinvesting in money going on. I'm seeing the value and worth that I am as a person and reinvesting it again. I'm reinvesting back into: My children Myself My home My career My location My lifestyle My personality My behavior. My values and beliefs. Some of these are the same, only I don't have to be hidden, there's a lot more freedom to be true to myself. There is a bit of a bump up in the market with news over the weekend. Your timing is just fine. Keep in mind that capital gains tax is going to be substantial for your long term holdings. I think keeping your focus is right on the money. This dredges up an old tune that goes through my Head every once in a while. Oddly, some of the best advice I ever got came from Gilligan's Island. Poloneus advice from Hamlet, Sung to the Toreodor Song: Neither a borrower, nor a lender be, Do not forget, stay out of debt. Think twice, and take this good advice from me: Guard that old sovereignty. And one other thing you aught to do: to thine own self be true. |
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Post by saarinista on Apr 13, 2018 21:03:20 GMT -5
You're free at last, greatcoastal . Remember, the money didn't make you happy in the marriage. You don't need it to make you happy now. You just need yourself. And if you want stuff that she wants to keep, go buy similar but used if you're tight on money. Just get the hell away from that woman. Remember, if money was what made a marriage happy, Melania Trump would smile more. |
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Post by shamwow on Apr 14, 2018 15:34:16 GMT -5
I sold all of my inheritance IRA this weekend. It was supposed to be a nothing. Moving money. Wiring money, buying a home. Instead it was down right difficult. So many unchartered waters for me. When have I ever called Charles Schwab and traded stocks on the market? NEVER! It wasn't so bad. I did %90 of it on my own, yet I was plauged with doubt and uncomfortable feelings about the whole thing! Stocks that I never heard of, companies with abreviations that I still don't know what the heck it stood for! Just pushing bottons and watching tens of thousands of dollars get sold. Wondering, what am I doing? Like ending my SM. Years of investments just gone, sold. And now reinvested in real estate. It took me 24hrs to realize theres a whole lot more than just "reinvesting in money going on. I'm seeing the value and worth that I am as a person and reinvesting it again. I'm reinvesting back into: My children Myself My home My career My location My lifestyle My personality My behavior. My values and beliefs. Some of these are the same, only I don't have to be hidden, there's a lot more freedom to be true to myself. If you don't know what to put the money into you might use an age targeted mutual fund. They will change the allocation of assets based upon the risk of your age as you grow older. I'm pretty conservative and more concerned with the return OF my money than the return ON my money. Just my 2 cents. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 17, 2018 7:46:48 GMT -5
Good news and bad news.
First the good ☺!
I closed on my house yesterday!
FREEEDOOOMM!!!
I went on a Monte Christo retreat for men. I spent 4 days having an awesome time with 40 other terrific men. No phones, computers , or watches.
It was a great experience!.
The bad news.😒
I came home to discover scathing emails from my ex's attorney.
The" equitable distribution" is going to be ugly. My ex has started to use the kids against me. She was full of profanities, threats and hostile actions last night.
Hopefully in a week much of it will pass.
You can imagine how difficult it is to rise above the fray, stand up for myself, be my true self, and have boundaries with consequences, all at the same time.
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 17, 2018 8:48:03 GMT -5
Good news and bad news. First the good ☺! I closed on my house yesterday! FREEEDOOOMM!!! I went on a Monte Christo retreat for men. I spent 4 days having an awesome time with 40 other terrific men. No phones, computers , or watches. It was a great experience!. The bad news.😒 I came home to discover scathing emails from my ex's attorney. The" equitable distribution" is going to be ugly. My ex has started to use the kids against me. She was full of profanities, threats and hostile actions last night. Hopefully in a week much of it will pass. You can imagine how difficult it is to rize above the fray, stand up for myself, be my true self, and have boundaries with consequences, all at the same time. Fuck her!! If she uses the kids they are old enough to see and when they are 18 they can write her out of their life just like you did. Here's to freedom!! |
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Post by WindSister on Apr 17, 2018 9:24:48 GMT -5
Good news and bad news. First the good ☺! I closed on my house yesterday! FREEEDOOOMM!!! I went on a Monte Christo retreat for men. I spent 4 days having an awesome time with 40 other terrific men. No phones, computers , or watches. It was a great experience!. The bad news.😒 I came home to discover scathing emails from my ex's attorney. The" equitable distribution" is going to be ugly. My ex has started to use the kids against me. She was full of profanities, threats and hostile actions last night. Hopefully in a week much of it will pass. You can imagine how difficult it is to rize above the fray, stand up for myself, be my true self, and have boundaries with consequences, all at the same time. Eye on the prize, and I like Sham's advise of playing nice even when it is hard to do because the kids are watching. But, yes, come here and vent if need be! Eye on the prize!!! In the end, what's most important is peace of mind and heart. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 17, 2018 11:04:15 GMT -5
Just got WIFI at the new house! ( I'm sitting on the floor in the empty house) My first message goes to all the fine people at ILIASM!!
A fitting testimony!
Here's to new beginnings!
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Post by dinnaken on Apr 17, 2018 16:42:41 GMT -5
Hi greatcoastal I was delighted to hear your news . In your present position, a quote from the 17th century memoir 'The History of Myddle' might be appropriate. Speaking of one 'Scroggan of the Goblin hole' the author commented "He that sitteth upon the floor can fall no further" All the very best for the future |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 19, 2018 8:45:10 GMT -5
Moving day is coming! I'm going to vent.....My ex errrgh... what a manipulative BITCH!! (that felt good!!)
Her telling me on line what I am going to take and what I can't. Ummm it doesn't work that way anymore! (it's all been sent to my attorney) A representative from the moving company came over to give me an estimate. It just so happens she turned out to be a very attractive, young woman. My ex has managed to work from home all week so she can attempt to control everything.
I met the representative in the driveway and gave her the warning. Low and behold my ex met her in the hallway and immediately asked " who are you? what are you doing here? what is this for?" What a manipulative bitch!
I told my ex, "I can answer all of these, you need to speak to me, not her. I am getting a price for moving." I then asked her" are you going to do this every time I bring someone into the house? Block them at the door and confront them?" She answered " if it's someone I don't know". I said "unbelievable!"
My ex responded" your going to be moving things?, we haven't agreed yet (side note; I gave my list to my attorney almost two years ago)"
I then told my ex, "If you want me to move out by your deadline I need to get a mover and I need to continue with the process, or everything will be ended and it will all be delayed, don't get in the way."
Like the true manipulative controlling bitch that she is she followed us around the entire house with her phone in her hand. She acted like a wounded hungry puppy dog and I had a steak in my hand!
When I tell people of her words and actions, they reply, " she's got problems, or that is one sick person". yeah....hopefully by the 25th it will be done.
Thanks for the vent! Somehow I think I'm not the only one who has gone through this.
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Post by saarinista on Apr 19, 2018 13:55:38 GMT -5
Moving day is coming! I'm going to vent.....My ex errrgh... what a manipulative BITCH!! (that felt good!!) Her telling me on line what I am going to take and what I can't. Ummm it doesn't work that way anymore! (it's all been sent to my attorney) A representative from the moving company came over to give me an estimate. It just so happens she turned out to be a very attractive, young woman. My ex has managed to work from home all week so she can attempt to control everything. I met the representative in the driveway and gave her the warning. Low and behold my ex met her in the hallway and immediately asked " who are you? what are you doing here? what is this for?" What a manipulative bitch! I told my ex, "I can answer all of these, you need to speak to me, not her. I am getting a price for moving." I then asked her" are you going to do this every time I bring someone into the house? Block them at the door and confront them?" She answered " if it's someone I don't know". I said "unbelievable!" My ex responded" your going to be moving things?, we haven't agreed yet (side note; I gave my list to my attorney almost two years ago)" I then told my ex, "If you want me to move out by your deadline I need to get a mover and I need to continue with the process, or everything will be ended and it will all be delayed, don't get in the way." Like the true manipulative controlling bitch that she is she followed us around the entire house with her phone in her hand. She acted like a wounded hungry puppy dog and I had a steak in my hand! When I tell people of her words and actions, they reply, " she's got problems, or that is one sick person". yeah....hopefully by the 25th it will be done. Thanks for the vent! Somehow I think I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Thank God you're getting away from that woman. Hang tough don't let her bring you down. Easier said than done I realize but she sounds like a very disturbed Woman and in the long run you'll be sitting pretty. hopefully in the relatively short run too. Unfortunately, in the very NEAR future she's probably going to be a pain in the keister, but try to laugh. She's only making herself look ridiculous. Remember: when she goes low, you go high. 😀 |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 19, 2018 17:41:05 GMT -5
Moving day is coming! I'm going to vent.....My ex errrgh... what a manipulative BITCH!! (that felt good!!) Her telling me on line what I am going to take and what I can't. Ummm it doesn't work that way anymore! (it's all been sent to my attorney) A representative from the moving company came over to give me an estimate. It just so happens she turned out to be a very attractive, young woman. My ex has managed to work from home all week so she can attempt to control everything. I met the representative in the driveway and gave her the warning. Low and behold my ex met her in the hallway and immediately asked " who are you? what are you doing here? what is this for?" What a manipulative bitch! I told my ex, "I can answer all of these, you need to speak to me, not her. I am getting a price for moving." I then asked her" are you going to do this every time I bring someone into the house? Block them at the door and confront them?" She answered " if it's someone I don't know". I said "unbelievable!" My ex responded" your going to be moving things?, we haven't agreed yet (side note; I gave my list to my attorney almost two years ago)" I then told my ex, "If you want me to move out by your deadline I need to get a mover and I need to continue with the process, or everything will be ended and it will all be delayed, don't get in the way." Like the true manipulative controlling bitch that she is she followed us around the entire house with her phone in her hand. She acted like a wounded hungry puppy dog and I had a steak in my hand! When I tell people of her words and actions, they reply, " she's got problems, or that is one sick person". yeah....hopefully by the 25th it will be done. Thanks for the vent! Somehow I think I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Thank God you're getting away from that woman. Hang tough don't let her bring you down. Easier said than done I realize but she sounds like a very disturbed Woman and in the long run you'll be sitting pretty. hopefully in the relatively short run too. Unfortunately, in the very NEAR future she's probably going to be a pain in the keister, but try to laugh. She's only making herself look ridiculous. Remember: when she goes low, you go high. 😀 Thank you for your caring response , it means a lot! "She's only making herself look ridiculous". Sadly I wish this was true, however my older boys seem to buy it hook ,line, and sinker. There is no telling what else she tells them. Not something that would have gotten any better if we had stayed together. I must always remember how cunning and manipulative she is. Also how she constantly attempts to speak down to me with her manipulations. After her latest "control episode" this morning, with the moving lady, I responded back to her on line with this " I may be having several people over in the next few days to help me move. You are welcome to meet them, however they may not be anxious to meet you. Please conduct yourself in a polite adult manner." She comes back with the words, "this is my final offer". Once again, spoken like a true controller. Just because she says it's final doesn't mean it's final. It's amazing to watch her double standards when it comes to boundaries and even more important fairness and respect. I think she gets far to much of it handed to her from her tittles. Her tittle at work and her golden uterus syndrome at home. She avoids a level playing field at all costs. I will be blessed to no longer have it be such a life altering affect on me!! Fun times! |
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 19, 2018 19:32:23 GMT -5
greatcoastal, that woman is just asking to be fucked with. While I would normally advocate playing nice and being the better person, she gets an exception. Do a walk-through with another mover and list everything in sight. Take up a new hobby, learning to cook curry dishes. Remember to never microwave fish. ;-) Invite a few dozen of your trucker buddies over for a potluck party every weekend. Continue to exercise your right to access the property until the last court-ordered date. These are all legitimate things you're entitled to do in your residence, which it still is. Unless, of course, she'd like you to compromise by offering to complete her court-ordered distributions promptly. Note to self: This is why you don't want to be the one keeping the house.
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 19, 2018 19:45:43 GMT -5
Greatcoastal, your wife is a supreme PITA. What about her enticed you to marry her? Did you overlook red flags or did she radically change?
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 19, 2018 20:22:33 GMT -5
greatcoastal , that woman is just asking to be fucked with. While I would normally advocate playing nice and being the better person, she gets an exception. Do a walk-through with another mover and list everything in sight. Take up a new hobby, learning to cook curry dishes. Remember to never microwave fish. ;-) Invite a few dozen of your trucker buddies over for a potluck party every weekend. Continue to exercise your right to access the property until the last court-ordered date. These are all legitimate things you're entitled to do in your residence, which it still is. Unless, of course, she'd like you to compromise by offering to complete her court-ordered distributions promptly. Note to self: This is why you don't want to be the one keeping the house. Thank you friend, I needed a good grin and a laugh tonight! The only thing she can fuck is a mouse to a keyboard! It's to late to expect another mover to come I got lucky! Actually several of my very large male friends from my weekly mens fellowship are coming over to help me move. One even said lets all swarm in together and get it done! We can have all the parties we want at my new place!! (so can my teens) Oh I will be in and out until the last moment moving little things constantly. You know me , always forgetting something!! On a positive note she did give in on a few things. Strangely It was when I said "no" back to her, and gave her a reasonable explanation of why it is needed and, and, A reminder of ALL that I am already leaving for her and will be glad to start listing for me to take. If you ever went to a car dealer and wanted to get the best deal you would want her on your side- so she thinks!! |
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