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Post by samedeepwater on Jun 30, 2016 10:13:47 GMT -5
Just waiting on a final decree, which should be any time.
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Post by tinymouse on Jun 30, 2016 10:38:18 GMT -5
For me... I kinda got pushed into it by a former friend. Granted, it was the right thing. I ranted about parasite for a long time and would tell my friend how he would put me down and everything else. This particular day I wanted to make a certain dish. I grew up on this dish. Fried potatoes. I was really craving them and i was even just going to make them for myself, noone else was forced to have them. You just slice and fry. Ex kept telling me that I didn't know what I was doing and they had to be boiled first, it's how his mother made them. And I ranted to the friend and he said you've been ranting about him for a long time. Are you finally gonna do anything about it? Are you finally gonna get a divorce. And he was pushing. And I finally snapped and told him that yes, I'm done.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2016 11:51:03 GMT -5
For me... I kinda got pushed into it by a former friend. Granted, it was the right thing. I ranted about parasite for a long time and would tell my friend how he would put me down and everything else. This particular day I wanted to make a certain dish. I grew up on this dish. Fried potatoes. I was really craving them and i was even just going to make them for myself, noone else was forced to have them. You just slice and fry. Ex kept telling me that I didn't know what I was doing and they had to be boiled first, it's how his mother made them. And I ranted to the friend and he said you've been ranting about him for a long time. Are you finally gonna do anything about it? Are you finally gonna get a divorce. And he was pushing. And I finally snapped and told him that yes, I'm done. Fat ass. |
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Post by tinymouse on Jul 1, 2016 13:47:25 GMT -5
Huh? What do you mean by that?
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Post by sodone1492 on Jul 11, 2016 6:20:11 GMT -5
Here's a great 'enough is enough' story. My husband and I were entering our 9th year without sex. Needless to say it was incredibly hard on me. Early one morning I snuck into 'his' room and started giving him oral to see if I could get something going. He let me do it for about 5 minutes until his alarm clock went off....he turned off his alarm and got up and left. I had my first affair about a month later.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 9:30:19 GMT -5
Here's a great 'enough is enough' story. My husband and I were entering our 9th year without sex. Needless to say it was incredibly hard on me. Early one morning I snuck into 'his' room and started giving him oral to see if I could get something going. He let me do it for about 5 minutes until his alarm clock went off....he turned off his alarm and got up and left. I had my first affair about a month later. That'll do it! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 21:26:57 GMT -5
Here's a great 'enough is enough' story. My husband and I were entering our 9th year without sex. Needless to say it was incredibly hard on me. Early one morning I snuck into 'his' room and started giving him oral to see if I could get something going. He let me do it for about 5 minutes until his alarm clock went off....he turned off his alarm and got up and left. I had my first affair about a month later. Quite a wake up call. |
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Post by JMX on Jul 13, 2016 21:58:08 GMT -5
We actually had active conversations about divorce in January of this year. He was also on board. When I started implementing them, he withdrew and would not cooperate. He is now "working on it" and while it is much better 75% of the time - it is still too early to say. I cannot trust it and think I *may* finally not love him anymore. This has been a new revelation. As much as I didn't want to love him, I still did.
Understand your pain. Seriously. It hurts when they don't fight for you. Just be ready, when they do start fighting, you may find you don't feel the same anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 22:38:45 GMT -5
We actually had active conversations about divorce in January of this year. He was also on board. When I started implementing them, he withdrew and would not cooperate. He is now "working on it" and while it is much better 75% of the time - it is still too early to say. I cannot trust it and think I *may* finally not love him anymore. This has been a new revelation. As much as I didn't want to love him, I still did. Understand your pain. Seriously. It hurts when they don't fight for you. Just be ready, when they do start fighting, you may find you don't feel the same anymore. It does you great harm when someone you love thinks you are just fine or better off without them. Their apathy and/or exit can be devastating. Then of course you see you really are better off without them, but it's a painful realization. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Aug 22, 2016 9:06:56 GMT -5
June 17, 2015. But who's counting? Is everything final yet? And samedeepwater - was this just a calendar item you had space for in the schedule that day or what? What were the surrounding circumstances? (If you don't mind sharing it, I think that the details surrounding what made you make the decision at a particular time was really the question the post intended to draw answers about?) For me - when I realized "where I was at" it was already past the point of enough is enough. So I worked hard (for about 6 weeks) on hiding my agenda and knocking my exit strategy into place and editing the letter (The Talk, as we say) - the letter was the part that was a 6 weeks writing & editing assignment. That 6 weeks of "not letting on" until the time I could show my hand were in fact pretty difficult - but I managed it. Our deal was a dead duck from about 1-3 years before I knew it, understood the facts, knew the implications of those facts. By the time the fog lifted from my optimistic brain - all I could see what a burning carcass of a marriage - totally not salvageable. |
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