Post by northstarmom on Dec 27, 2022 13:04:12 GMT -5
Presumably, you are looking for some support because you have sexless marriage issues. Jump in and post. Make up whatever name you want. Tell as many or as few details as you want. Ask questions.
While this forum is a great resource, it will die if people like you don't bother to post. Old timers like me, who is almost 10 years out of my SM marriage of 34 years (!) will not bother to stay and support unless it's clear our help is needed. New people also won't post if they feel they are alone.
Concerned about privacy? Come here using the "incognito" feature that some web browsers like Google offer. Another option is to clear your browsing history.
Concerned that your spouse might discover you were here. Why? Surely they know you are in a sexless marriage. Maybe if they see that you were here, they will realize how serious the problem is. And, what's the worst that could happen if they discover you here? They'll deny you sex?
Post by deadzone75 on Dec 28, 2022 14:52:10 GMT -5
Yup. There is also hesitation for the old schoolers to respond to any newcomer when many of them who do decide to post, post once and vanish. There are a couple recent exceptions, which is nice to see.
I am a person who is guilty of lurking for a while here before getting up the nerve to join and post. This time of year is always hard. There is something about it being a holiday, feeling excited, hoping that my partner might put down the tictoks for a minute and think about sex for a second.Maybe stop feeling overwhelmed by making everything perfect to notice my attempts to connect physically. Being around home there is also a lot of chore play that never ends in anything. In the past I would find myself feeling sorry for myself and lurking around the site looking for solace. Realizing how commonplace the SM issue is, it is no surprise that folks are looking for common voices here. I was always worried that my wife would trace my tracks here on my phone,she often tried to find traces of porn, but really ,so what? So she gets further verification that I am unhappy with the lack of sex. Actually posting here was a source of self care, finally showing up for myself, saying publicly what I suffer silently with means something even if it is a small thing.