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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on May 3, 2022 11:10:10 GMT -5
I can relate to parts of this. This is where I am at with my SM journey 👇 I never really had the talk.. I tried various things...I tried giving him the same amount of engagement he gave me. I finally just started living my life like I was living with a roommate.
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Post by angeleyes65 on May 3, 2022 13:22:22 GMT -5
How one gears up depends on which "talk" one has with their spouse. My talks were about how unhappy I was with the lack of intimacy in the marriage. I made no bones about how difficult it was for me to be around her and have to avoid physical contact that could be viewed as leading to something sexual. Each talk sort of ratcheted up the previous talk until I finally gave up trying to figure out the "why" behind her coldness. I finally offered to stop asking her for intimacy if she would just go along with me having a "friend" for that sort of thing. But that didn't work either. We went through a reset for about 3 months and then she returned to avoiding me. I took off my ring and began distancing myself from her. After a week or so she noticed and took off her ring. We then began to discuss how to part amiably and still be friends afterward. I moved my ring to a different finger. He already didn't wear his due to work restrictions and it was too much effort to put it on for the weekend. Which is exactly what I came back with when once a year he "noticed" my ring wasn't on the right finger lol Just like every couple of years he noticed a piercing I had ( ear) and ask me when I got it and how come he didn't know. Shows how much attention he paid to me. If I would have gotten my nipples pierced he never would have noticed 🤣
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Post by heelots on May 3, 2022 14:17:08 GMT -5
How one gears up depends on which "talk" one has with their spouse. My talks were about how unhappy I was with the lack of intimacy in the marriage. I made no bones about how difficult it was for me to be around her and have to avoid physical contact that could be viewed as leading to something sexual. Each talk sort of ratcheted up the previous talk until I finally gave up trying to figure out the "why" behind her coldness. I finally offered to stop asking her for intimacy if she would just go along with me having a "friend" for that sort of thing. But that didn't work either. We went through a reset for about 3 months and then she returned to avoiding me. I took off my ring and began distancing myself from her. After a week or so she noticed and took off her ring. We then began to discuss how to part amiably and still be friends afterward. I moved my ring to a different finger. He already didn't wear his due to work restrictions and it was too much effort to put it on for the weekend. Which is exactly what I came back with when once a year he "noticed" my ring wasn't on the right finger lol Just like every couple of years he noticed a piercing I had ( ear) and ask me when I got it and how come he didn't know. Shows how much attention he paid to me. If I would have gotten my nipples pierced he never would have noticed 🤣 If my wife got her nips or clit pierced I would never have clue. Hell, under her clothes she could be inked from hell to breakfast and I would be clueless, I haven't seen my roommate naked in years. 😄
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