Post by northstarmom on Feb 19, 2022 23:39:38 GMT -5
I found that dating in my 60s was easier than dating when I was in my teens and 20s. After a lot of therapy, I had more confidence in myself than I had when I was younger. I also had more friends who were single due to divorce or widowhood. I also was far more comfortable doing things by myself. I was less willing to settle and was more willing to set boundaries instead of trying to mold myself into what a man wanted. And I was more secure in my sexuality. Was no longer Christian so had shed guilt over premarital sex. My social skills were better. I was more willing to be and reveal my real self instead of hiding aspect of myself for fear I'd be rejected. I had achieved the confidence that if someone rejected me, it was their loss, not mine.
I was a late bloomer and very awkward in my teenage years. Dating in my 50's was much easier. I can see how all the points can be applicable to some people, though.
17 points! That covers a lot of ground. The article even mentioned divorce and problems with sex. I liked the short paragraphs that gave tips and defined each point better. It was a nice list to grade yourself on. To decide what points you are doing well with and what points you may still struggle with, that will get in your way. The same applies for people that you meet and will date.
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