Post by mypaintbrushes on Feb 9, 2022 2:47:11 GMT -5
My ex-husband began talking, a few months ago, about retiring and moving to a particular foreign country in a couple of years.
About a week and a half ago, I was out at dinner with PC and for whatever reason decided to check Facebook while he was checking work messages. That was how I learned my ex is moving in a few months. Our 18-year-old will live with me full-time until he’s ready to get his own place.
Ex finally told me in person almost a week later. He is already going through the process of giving away just about everything he owns, including the cat he adopted last year.
I’ve asked my son how he feels about his dad basically leaving permanently. He replied that his dad intends to visit once a year and “We’ll FaceTime”.
I have literally said to PC, “Thank you for being normal!”
He has expressed that he is glad I’m out of that relationship. I am too.
He has an interesting relationship with his ex as well. I am also glad he’s out of that situation.
We’ve already been through so many highs and lows in the time we’ve known each other - we definitely know we can problem solve together.
As we start making the transition from new couple to long-term couple (we’re closing in on 2 years soon), I love him more and more all the time. In many ways, this feels like my first “real” relationship.
Post by greatcoastal on Feb 16, 2022 16:31:52 GMT -5
One good thing about time, it can verify that you made right and wrong decisions. Sounds like you made the right decision in leaving the ex. Time has a way of constantly proving that. Isn't it a good feeling when the ex justifies the divorce?
Being 'normal' in today's world deserves 5 stars! Continue with your words of affirmation to each other. Here's to new beginnings!
Very happy for you! Isn't it so nice to be out of a sexless relationship (my divorce was final last month)? You sound very happy and I know the feeling! Congrats!
Congratulations on your divorce!
It is SO nice. Not only the sex (no complaints there) but in terms of having a partner with whom to shoulder the burdens of life… as well as share the joys.
That's the big thing that I've noticed in my new relationship - the feeling that I have a partner, that we share the joys, adventures and challenges together and support and encourage each other. Oh, and the sex and sensual exploration journey we are both on together is so much fun. She is amazing and it's incredible when two people trust and love each other how much fun you can have with and without your clothes on. I've had more fun in the last year than I've had in the past ten with my ex. It's like going from a Volkswagen that won't start to a new Porsche.
I had put a "self check-in" on my calendar a year to the day from the date I filed for divorce asking myself one question - Are you happier today than you were a year ago? The answer is a resounding YES!!!!!!!. I shudder think of my future had I stayed in my sexless marriage and I truly feel for everyone who feels like they are stuck, whether it be because of age, health, finances, kids, circumstances, etc. I can honestly say if you've tried everything and still can't reignite your relationship and the passion therein, you owe it to yourself to get the heck out. You have the rest of your life to live and only get one shot at it. Why not be happy? I equate that journey to having to walk through a dark tunnel. It takes strength and courage to do it and not everyone will choose to make that journey, but if you put in the work on yourself as part of it, you will emerge a much more confident, stronger and emotionally available person, and yes, you will find someone else. Things will all work out and you'll be so much happier!
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