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Post by baza on Mar 24, 2021 3:45:31 GMT -5
There are two things in play here Brother blueguy . 1 - is your wish to have a viable sex life. 2 - is the fact that you are in an ILIASM deal. If you choose to stay in your ILIASM deal, then you choose to not have a viable sex life - and that, is a perfectly legitimate choice.
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Post by mirrororchid on Mar 24, 2021 5:36:33 GMT -5
... I can stand nude in front of my H and he doesn't even look at me. He has his eyes locked on mine or looks away like there is shame in looking at a nude wife. .... ...I ask the ILIASMers to not be held captive and wipe away the cobwebs on your genitals.... ...In another forum one male hired a lady to lay and hug him. (She was a professional hugger with all sorts of rules) I thought that was the most creative. Is there a post listing tasteful porn? If not, there should be. Soft and hardcore. Twin Moon Junction comes to mind. The Red Shoe Diaries may be enough for those otherwise averse to skin flicks. The aversion of eyes is common even amongst red blooded males. We've been conditioned by society to equate ogling with objectification. Lord knows plenty of refusers get distressed by shows of wonton desire. Commonly, locking eyes with a prospective mate can start things off on teh right foot, letting such lust stay hidden for later. "lay him"? Or "lie/lay with him"? I thought those cuddlers-for-hire drew pretty firm lines. baza If you outsource, you get a sex life and stay in your marriage. I know you know that, but explicitly including it for blueguy strikes me as important. I'm not sure whether you consider it to be an inferior choice, but that was never my impression.
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Post by baza on Mar 24, 2021 6:19:54 GMT -5
Nup. I don't think that cheating is an inferior choice. For that matter I don't think it is a superior choice either.
It's "a" choice - one of three - none of which carry any superior / inferior moral value to the others in my opinion.
Staying, cheating, leaving .... all perfectly legitimate choices I reckon .... and all hellishly difficult in their own way.
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Post by Apocrypha on Mar 24, 2021 12:03:58 GMT -5
Well that blew up nicely. She got mad at me because I didn't have them on, and apparently I totally misread this. She didn't get them because she's interested in my manhood; she just thought I would like it because of what she read on it. I ended up being the jerk because I didn't want to even try them on. I did ended up doing so after arguing with her, and the way it cradles the scrotum sort of turns me on because it feels like someone is holding them. I am that sex starved. . When we were "discussing" it beforehand, she told me that not everything has to be sexual and that she was just trying to be nice by buying me underwear and that she will never do this again. Her idea of sex is starfish position and hurry up and get it over with. I just want intimate attention and to be desired and wanted in that way!! You aren't going to get that from a person who doesn't see you as a sexual partner. She isn't and hasn't been your sexual partner and has no intention of it. It's fair of you to want sex, but she has made clear that it won't be from her. Her goal with this interaction with you may well have been to provoke the fight, which resulted in her saying she won't "do this again", if her purchase was unusual
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