I am aware of several incidents where my W might have considered me less capable of being the go-to, get things done person and where she may have felt less safety for the future. Medical issues knocked me down several notches a couple of times in my life.
I have written out many, many pages of events in my life and marriage that lead to a SM for me.
I still never heard about couples having sex 4 times a day on a regular basis, which was one of my original questions.
Maybe someone would write that type of poll. If so, put me down for 3X a day for one day on the honeymoon and then 1X or maybe 2X for the rest of the honeymoon week. Also, going back to work 10 days later, put me down for 2 or 3 times a week.
Saarinista, thanks for the vote of confidence. Sadly my guess some of my past medical situations going back to 1981, economic challenges, her medical situations and her working in a "pro women" organization for 15 years had some rather major influences.
Now maybe once or twice a week would be my speed for me. I think my W might be OK with couple of quickies 2X a year if I did most of the work. I would probably feel like a pest and that is a big reason I gave up on sex at home. I generally look for win-win interactions with people. Like with you and your H, I am not looking to crush my W or anyone else to get my way.
The past 18 months has been challenging in several ways. Yes I beat cancer but the treatments came at some costs, so right now I am coasting and focusing on what I need.
DrNo and blueguy What would happen if you left this book on the coffee table? I did this and got no response, he ignored it. But I was in apathetic mode and I did it just because! Nothing new in this book and it's contents didn't match the title.
Why Married Couples don't have sex At least Not With Each Other" When it first came out I could only get it through Canada Amazon.
Now that looks like a good book!
I may well invest and see what happens in the world of Mrs No.
To be honest I think she would just laugh it off. I'm quite blunt at times now, which I doubt helps. For example if the subject is raised on tv, in general wider conversation with friends, or just alone in general daily chats, I just say "what is the point we don't have sex anymore", and she replies that we do and that this or that is happening and and and.... I do not even say to her anymore that "well you could try this, or that". I do not bother.
I am not for one second saying this is all my wifes issue. After all we are both in this. Her problem for sure is she works too much. Does she do that to get away from me, I do not think so. I'm not that kind of guy and always feel she wants to be with me.
The problem is she will not admit she just does DO sex very well. That is not me being nasty, but for sure I've been with some pretty amazing ladies in my life, girlfriends, and I have tried everything to introduce my wife to some excitement. Failed every time.
It has got to the point of being "just how it is" ..
jerri: Anyone with a birthday in November? worksforme2 has one on the 28th Yay!! @missunnybunny, Hope it was grand!!!
Oct 30, 2021 3:29:31 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: jerri, I had a wonderful birthday, thank you! Wishing everyone here a Happy Halloween!
Oct 31, 2021 15:29:33 GMT -5
worksforme2: Moving right along,..received my 1st Moderna booster this morning,...Fauci is going to have to work harder to kill me
Nov 4, 2021 9:45:10 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Birthday tiredoftears,.....I hope life is treating you well....
Nov 8, 2021 6:07:34 GMT -5
worksforme2: It's 6:30am and looking out the window I see the dark forms of my trees against the pale blue background of the sky....I like it....
Nov 8, 2021 6:33:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: It begins again. *REFUSED* Season 2 - refusedpodcast.com - Trailer and Episode 14 "Only So Good", now available for download.
Nov 8, 2021 19:24:13 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey mirrororchid,....Happy Birthday...and don't try to get out of it
Nov 11, 2021 12:31:11 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Much thanks, WorksForMe2. T'was pretty good. Little celebrations three days in a row, this year.
Nov 12, 2021 4:32:23 GMT -5
jerri: worksforme2 you paint a lovely picture and Happy Birthday on the 28th!! Let's don't forget his birthday he looks for ours up here almost every day! Thanks, mirrororchid.
Nov 17, 2021 3:34:35 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Birthday baza, I hope you can dodge the lockdown long enough to go out for dinner....
Nov 22, 2021 8:44:29 GMT -5
jerri: Happy Birthday, Baza!!!! yay
Nov 23, 2021 3:12:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Thanksgiving to one and all...
Nov 25, 2021 7:27:40 GMT -5
jerri: Happy Birthday, worksforme2 Hope it's a great one!!!
Nov 28, 2021 3:54:39 GMT -5
worksforme2: Thanks jerri....I will be preparing meals for a food ministry that my church helps sponsor...
Nov 28, 2021 11:49:30 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Missed it by a day, Jerri. (I'm typically offline weekends.) Happy Birthday, WorksForMe2. Thank you for the kind wishes you send to everyone in our dysfunctional-but-getting-better family.
Nov 29, 2021 4:46:45 GMT -5
worksforme2: Thanks mirrororchid..I'm having my extendeen famil over thius weekend for Thanksgiving, no competition with the moms and grandmoms that way....the bad part, giving the whole house a good cleaning so the kids can play all over the place
Nov 30, 2021 5:02:35 GMT -5
mirrororchid: WorksForMe2, Our cleanup just got junked up by piling Xmas decorations everywhere in living room. Difficult come, easy go.
Dec 6, 2021 12:49:48 GMT -5