I am aware of several incidents where my W might have considered me less capable of being the go-to, get things done person and where she may have felt less safety for the future. Medical issues knocked me down several notches a couple of times in my life.
I have written out many, many pages of events in my life and marriage that lead to a SM for me.
I still never heard about couples having sex 4 times a day on a regular basis, which was one of my original questions.
Maybe someone would write that type of poll. If so, put me down for 3X a day for one day on the honeymoon and then 1X or maybe 2X for the rest of the honeymoon week. Also, going back to work 10 days later, put me down for 2 or 3 times a week.
Saarinista, thanks for the vote of confidence. Sadly my guess some of my past medical situations going back to 1981, economic challenges, her medical situations and her working in a "pro women" organization for 15 years had some rather major influences.
Now maybe once or twice a week would be my speed for me. I think my W might be OK with couple of quickies 2X a year if I did most of the work. I would probably feel like a pest and that is a big reason I gave up on sex at home. I generally look for win-win interactions with people. Like with you and your H, I am not looking to crush my W or anyone else to get my way.
The past 18 months has been challenging in several ways. Yes I beat cancer but the treatments came at some costs, so right now I am coasting and focusing on what I need.
DrNo and blueguy What would happen if you left this book on the coffee table? I did this and got no response, he ignored it. But I was in apathetic mode and I did it just because! Nothing new in this book and it's contents didn't match the title.
Why Married Couples don't have sex At least Not With Each Other" When it first came out I could only get it through Canada Amazon.
Now that looks like a good book!
I may well invest and see what happens in the world of Mrs No.
To be honest I think she would just laugh it off. I'm quite blunt at times now, which I doubt helps. For example if the subject is raised on tv, in general wider conversation with friends, or just alone in general daily chats, I just say "what is the point we don't have sex anymore", and she replies that we do and that this or that is happening and and and.... I do not even say to her anymore that "well you could try this, or that". I do not bother.
I am not for one second saying this is all my wifes issue. After all we are both in this. Her problem for sure is she works too much. Does she do that to get away from me, I do not think so. I'm not that kind of guy and always feel she wants to be with me.
The problem is she will not admit she just does DO sex very well. That is not me being nasty, but for sure I've been with some pretty amazing ladies in my life, girlfriends, and I have tried everything to introduce my wife to some excitement. Failed every time.
It has got to the point of being "just how it is" ..
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jim44444: Happy Vernal Equinox. Go out and frolic.
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worksforme2: Happy Vernal Equinox....Be fruitful and multiply...
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petrushka: Just attended a lecture on local history. Apparently the Presbyterian Scottish refugees who settled here called a 'frolic', what the Amish would call a 'barn raising'. First a working bee, then dancing and feasting.
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jerri: Pressing the like sign for all those comments.
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catlover: The resentment is running high today
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mirrororchid: Sorry, dude. I think resentment has been the fuel for action in some SMs. It can be part of a process, eventually helpful.
Mar 30, 2021 4:43:40 GMT -5
Handy: I just read "The Babylon Bee" article "Blockage Cleared, Ships Moving At Record Speed As Chick-Fil-A Workers Put In Charge Of Suez Canal." Good humor.
Mar 30, 2021 16:49:51 GMT -5
worksforme2: Freezing temps in the morning for the next 3 days= no peaches in the fall for me unless I buy them,... 2 yrs in a row...growing my own fruit has proven to be a losing proposition
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Handy: Meet the Feebles=weird!
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jerri: Lots of interesting comments. I am way behind. Sending hugs and a kiss on the cheek💋
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roy: Hi All, I just joined, at 77. I've been in a sexless marriage for too many years ...
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petrushka: G'day Roy, welcome to the place most of us don't want to be. I am sure you will find lots of interesting personal stories and comments and reactions on the forum. Don't be shy about jumping in to talks ...
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