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Post by isthisit on Nov 26, 2020 16:39:49 GMT -5
Mine adored me and loved me as much as he is capable of loving anyone. Just not the way I needed him to. It’s a case of whether that’s enough for you, and only you can know this. Time will help you make a good decision. Just don’t spend too much getting there. I, and many others here took too long with that. I wish you well. I wonder, is it *really* love if your partner isn’t willing to find ways to make the relationship work? I mean, I suppose my spouse is loving. But if I am begging him for help, to meet me half way to sort out our SM (as I did in past; won’t go down that path ever again), and he doesn’t, it’s not just a matter of his inability. Is it not a lack of mutual respect, a lack of consideration for the person who is asking to make change? How are they loving if they completely abandon you? you pose some salient questions. How can you claim to love someone yet be irritated and not concerned when they tell you that they are deeply unhappy in the marriage? How can you claim to fancy someone you forget to glance at or touch for weeks on end? How can you claim to be a loving spouse and ignore pleas to listen, work on things, and please, show you give a damn about my quality of life. I guess this is why I chose my wording with “he loved me as much as he is capable of loving anyone”. He gave me his best, and I suppose that’s all you can ask of anyone. Sadly I just couldn’t manage to cope with what little he could offer. Our marriage was rotten on the inside because my ability to express my love for him made him deeply and consistently happy. I experienced emotional loneliness and felt hopeless about my future. So I had to leave or suffocate. At times I hold on to he is a good person who gave me his best. |
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Post by isthisit on Nov 26, 2020 16:56:52 GMT -5
point I'm making is that your spouse may enjoy your bringing some money or kids or your household skills into a marriage, but it's all pretty lame if they don't want to have sex-unless they give you carte blanche to get it somewhere else. Personally, I think refusers SHOULD so grant that. It's odd that society hasn't yet universally figured this out. I live in London (UK). I have asked my partner what he would think of me having sex with someone else and explained I really miss intimacy. He became angry and said he’s tired from work and blames it on stress. He always acts like he’s going to work on it and it will go back to normal but nothing has changed. When I try to talk about it he always finds a reason why it’s not a good time and says we can talk about it in the evening or the weekend but he never does. I have such shame around it all I don’t bring it up that often. I will look for a counsellor. I’ve never spoken to anyone about it before but reading people’s experience’s here it sounds like a good thing to do. I am very sorry that you find yourself here, and have had to endure our collective horrible experiences. But, thank you so, so much for being British! For two years I have felt like the only woman in the U.K. whose H did not want to have sex with her. There is a bizarre comfort in knowing that it’s not just you. Top tip, “Gordon Bennett” and “budgie smugglers” confuses the others 😉. About the PM’s I think you have to make a number of posts to enable this function. |
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Post by gladifoundthisforum on Nov 30, 2020 15:22:22 GMT -5
isthisit; top tip ; 'Gordon Bennet' and' Budgie Smugglers' confuses the others  Best not mention 'knocking somebody up in the morning' and 'sharing a fag with them'............  |
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Post by curious81 on Nov 30, 2020 16:00:07 GMT -5
Or ‘it’s enough to make you want to "pop your clogs” 😂
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Post by jerri on Nov 30, 2020 17:53:10 GMT -5
If you are bat sh!t crazy, and feel like jumping on the bandwagon, come to America, we can shoot the breeze and go Dutch! Give us a ballpark figure because we do have a bridge to sell you if you haven't already bought the farm with covid or smoking all the fags!
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Post by petrushka on Dec 2, 2020 21:52:14 GMT -5
LOL or come Down Under with your 'fanny pack', jerri , and you'll get some funny looks. (They call it a bum-bag here). Your fanny is, what your husband is neglecting. |
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Post by jerri on Dec 3, 2020 5:43:00 GMT -5
LOL or come Down Under with your 'fanny pack', jerri , and you'll get some funny looks. (They call it a bum-bag here). Your fanny is, what your husband is neglecting. I love it! 💙 |
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 3, 2020 6:26:56 GMT -5
Come to surf country where you can wax up your board (with sex wax) put your toes on the nose, hang ten,do a barrel roll and catch the first breaker, like totally dude! At least the waves will slap your ass!
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