Ya know, that may be true, and yet...there's the marriages where the death of the sex and intimacy came first ,leading to death in other aspects of the marriage. It happens...
I think that I would have to agree. I feel like for me, the lack of sex was what poisoned the rest. It was the beginning of the corrosion of the rest of the relationship. I started to get depressed over the lack of sex and stopped putting in as much effort in other relational areas. She made more excuses to avoid sex. I did the why chasing and choreplay but ended up getting nowhere so I got resentful and quit doing more things. ...
People / therapists love to say there's usually something underlying the lack of sex. Yeah? So what?
During the reset, all my wife's bad habits make me shrug. When it's more than a month in between sessions, they grate my nerves.
Isn't so much of life pro-and-con? We're often told to use the pros and cons to make important, complex life decisions. When contemplating divorce, sex is on one side or the other.
Sex? Major PRO. No sex? Major CON.
Like a scale balanced with jellybeans and sex is a bowling ball. You can have a whole mess of jellybeans going against your spouse, but if you're knocking the boots, it might still be no contest. They're a keeper.
On the other side, you get "everything's great but the sex" and these refused partners end up here, slowly understanding the spouse may not have enough jellybeans on his/her PRO side no matter how high they're stacked to make up for the misplaced bowling ball.
Other issues? Sure. But when you're getting some, you can overlook a lot.
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worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5
wewbwb: jerri the average intelligence of the end posts rose greatly since I stopped posting ! Hope allis well!
Sept 26, 2020 7:29:23 GMT -5
jerri: Don't be too busy to post. Come back, wewbwb! 💜
Sept 26, 2020 20:12:33 GMT -5
Handy: Jerri, you bring intelligence, so stop that nonsense.
Sept 26, 2020 20:19:03 GMT -5
Handy: petrushka, I saved a picture of your solar panels and shop from an old post of yours. I like what I saw. Best wishes on getting the photons, or particles of light, to knock electrons free from atoms.
Sept 28, 2020 1:09:41 GMT -5
jerri: Handy, that's a really great Podcast so far. Robert Glover)
Sept 28, 2020 15:33:24 GMT -5