Stop being a people- pleaser.

greatcoastal Senior Members Thanks for the Birthday wishes! Dinner with a friend tonight and B.D dance with the ladies! Posts: 6,727 Age Range: 56-60	Stop being a people- pleaser. Aug 28, 2020 19:30:03 GMT -5 baza and sadkat like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by greatcoastal on Aug 28, 2020 19:30:03 GMT -5 psiloveyou.xyz/if-you-want-better-relationships-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-16f13f45a2fe
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baza Senior Members Tread your own path Posts: 5,556	Stop being a people- pleaser. Aug 28, 2020 19:47:42 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by baza on Aug 28, 2020 19:47:42 GMT -5 Another of your good finds with this article Brother greatcoastal . And to me, it reads like, and reaffirms the underlying life message - which is - "sort your own shit out first"

sadkat Senior Member Posts: 1,185	Stop being a people- pleaser. Aug 28, 2020 20:36:09 GMT -5 via Tapatalk greatcoastal likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by sadkat on Aug 28, 2020 20:36:09 GMT -5 Very good article greatcoastal. I recognize many of the people-pleaser characteristics (thankfully not all). It’s a continuing work in progress for me.

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Stop being a people- pleaser. Aug 28, 2020 22:01:58 GMT -5 greatcoastal and jerri like this

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Post by Handy on Aug 28, 2020 22:01:58 GMT -5

Avoiding conflicts and trying to control the outcome by smoothing over the rough spots, YES, I recognize those traits.

The book "No More Mr Nice Guy" helped me avoid some of the people pleasing traits.

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Stop being a people- pleaser.

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