Post by mirrororchid on Aug 7, 2020 18:30:11 GMT -5
It occurs to me that people who leave sexless marriages may be badly out of practice. They may have been married so long, they haven;t learned many new tricks to romance a future partner. Some "stayed pure" for their wedding night, only to find they were staying pure 'til death. (Or would find themselves "pure" again all too soon.)
Me? I'm in better condition that many here, but my experience level (three lovers, lifetime, 2, 3, and 26.5 years) may leave me a babe-in-the-woods when it comes to dating again.
I'm creating this thread to help everyone interested in finding love after leaving their sexless marriage. Lack of confidence sucks. The best revenge should be living loving well. Perhaps those of us in SMs may read something here and surprise their mostly-refuser and have a more memorable night than usual. (a turnaround is a bit risky to ask for.)
So, I've been on the lookout for subject matter elsewhere in ILIASM that we might learn from. So far I have found:
When we hit the sheets again, we want to amaze and delight, amIright?
Perhaps there are more topics to put in the manual. Sexual Positions? Date Ideas? Date Protocol? Date Conversation Topics? Commitment Stages, Risks, and Comfort Zones? Physiology? Massage? Sexual Techniques? Romantic Gestures and Sweet Nothings? Dressing for Success and Personal Grooming?
I can update this OP if people locate good subject matter for the newly on-the-prowl. I'll generate threads if I don't find existing ones. Topics/threads from other online resources may be worth linking as well.
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worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5
wewbwb: jerri the average intelligence of the end posts rose greatly since I stopped posting ! Hope allis well!
Sept 26, 2020 7:29:23 GMT -5
jerri: Don't be too busy to post. Come back, wewbwb! 💜
Sept 26, 2020 20:12:33 GMT -5
Handy: Jerri, you bring intelligence, so stop that nonsense.
Sept 26, 2020 20:19:03 GMT -5
Handy: petrushka, I saved a picture of your solar panels and shop from an old post of yours. I like what I saw. Best wishes on getting the photons, or particles of light, to knock electrons free from atoms.
Sept 28, 2020 1:09:41 GMT -5
jerri: Handy, that's a really great Podcast so far. Robert Glover)
Sept 28, 2020 15:33:24 GMT -5