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Post by JMX on Jul 18, 2020 0:19:56 GMT -5
So what do you do when you get it is not fireworks when you actually get it?
It won’t get you anywhere your Brookstone neck massager won’t get you.
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 18, 2020 2:22:47 GMT -5
I won't lie.
My wife would curl up after sex, like she wanted to be in the little spoon position. I tried talking with her to encourage a better experience the next time, but she never wanted to talk. That lack of communication was a symptom of a much bigger problem.
I prefer open and honest communication, and it isn't always easy. I remember the first off night I had, and my partner was very clear that she needed more of something I had not provided. Some people might think of this as cruel, but, it's really not. I can either improve, which is a good thing, or accept a certain level of incompatibility and move on from there as appropriate. I'm definitely not everyone's cup of tea, either. A year ago I dated a girl that set expectations way above her capability. It wasn't worth my time to have sex with her again. It's not cruel. It's just true.
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Post by michael on Jul 18, 2020 5:04:03 GMT -5
I won't lie. My wife would curl up after sex, like she wanted to be in the little spoon position. I tried talking with her to encourage a better experience the next time, but she never wanted to talk. That lack of communication was a symptom of a much bigger problem. I prefer open and honest communication, and it isn't always easy. I remember the first off night I had, and my partner was very clear that she needed more of something I had not provided. Some people might think of this as cruel, but, it's really not. I can either improve, which is a good thing, or accept a certain level of incompatibility and move on from there as appropriate. I'm definitely not everyone's cup of tea, either. A year ago I dated a girl that set expectations way above her capability. It wasn't worth my time to have sex with her again. It's not cruel. It's just true. Not worth your time to have sex with her again? That is a concept I could only dream of. I wouldn’t say that to my hand let alone a woman who actually lets me touch her.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 18, 2020 7:18:39 GMT -5
One of the strangest videos I have ever seen. I might have made some sense out of it maybe if was in English. Then again, maybe not.
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Post by michael on Jul 18, 2020 8:47:19 GMT -5
Not worth your time to have sex with her again? That is a concept I could only dream of. I wouldn’t say that to my hand let alone a woman who actually lets me touch her. Amazing what being single again can do for your personal standards, ain’t it ironhamster ? 😏 I’ve got standards. I’m single. I just haven’t been with anyone yet or have been for years. I’m not into crazy and the last two women I’ve talk to on POF were crazy. One got mad because I was going on a date with someone else and she thought we should be exclusive even though we hadn’t even met yet. The other got mad because I asked her to use proper grammar and punctuation because it was difficult for me to understand her texts. I don’t know what I’m trying to say. I guess that I have personal standards.
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 18, 2020 9:39:46 GMT -5
Amazing what being single again can do for your personal standards, ain’t it ironhamster ? 😏 I’ve got standards. I’m single. I just haven’t been with anyone yet or have been for years. I’m not into crazy and the last two women I’ve talk to on POF were crazy. One got mad because I was going on a date with someone else and she thought we should be exclusive even though we hadn’t even met yet. The other got mad because I asked her to use proper grammar and punctuation because it was difficult for me to understand her texts. I don’t know what I’m trying to say. I guess that I have personal standards. Being single and active. I'm not a complete man-whore by any means, but I want to have fun. I'm deeply in love with idgaf96, but we aren't monogamous. I've enjoyed attending kink events, and do suspended rope bondage among other things. Most of the time, this does not intersect with sex. It's just sexy. Well, one of the women bottoming for me had a special request one night, and it involved one of my other specialties, rough sex. I don't think I can adequately describe how vigorous sex can get in a weightless situation. Well, I didn't even come close to being vigorous with her. Starting slow and working up wasn't working. Now, I also could have been an asshole and just pounded, fast and hard at any and every conceivable angle, and there are a lot of angles there to hit, but it's important to me that I meet or exceed expectations, and that wasn't the experience she wanted. Frankly, I'm not sure she even knew what she wanted, and there lied the problem. As far as I could tell, she did not want the rough sex experience so much as a cream pie fantasy. She thought she was so tight I would blow a nut quickly. When I told her it would be hours, the look on her face was disappointment. I don't want to play that game, so I stopped. Now, to be fair, I'm not desperate for sex. I haven't even been looking for sex. My needs have been amply met. This was just a friend with a need. I just wish she had been honest about what she wanted. After all, meeting expectations is one of the reasons I want to talk before anything happens. michael, my life was never anything like this. Five years ago I was a very different man. I got into shape, and started learning things I never even imagined before. Think about what you want your life to be like, and make it happen.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 18, 2020 10:36:38 GMT -5
I’ve got standards. I’m single. I just haven’t been with anyone yet or have been for years. I’m not into crazy and the last two women I’ve talk to on POF were crazy. One got mad because I was going on a date with someone else and she thought we should be exclusive even though we hadn’t even met yet. The other got mad because I asked her to use proper grammar and punctuation because it was difficult for me to understand her texts. I don’t know what I’m trying to say. I guess that I have personal standards. You aren't the only one to meet crazy women on POF> I too met a woman and had a coffee conversation that went well. We kissed and I said i would call her. Then life happened and i had a series of minor crises in my family that i had to address. Short story it was 3-4 days before I could call. She was pissed because i didn't call her for a date the day we met and called me arrogant. I can't tell you how many women have initiated a conversation and then didn't want to meet, although they wanted to keep on talking via POF. In terms of online dating I have learned you are going to need to expect the unexpected. Women probably experience much the same thing.
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 18, 2020 17:03:15 GMT -5
I think there are a LOT of crazy women out there. I don't do needy, I don't do stupid, and I don't do crazy. I've also learned that it takes a while to figure people out, and I am comfortable not being in a hurry.
I have a friend that does a podcast on dating over forty called Garage Sale Dating. The name came from the observation that dating over forty is like picking through other people's cast-offs hoping to find a gem.
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Post by mirrororchid on Jul 20, 2020 5:43:48 GMT -5
... I can't tell you how many women have initiated a conversation and then didn't want to meet, although they wanted to keep on talking via POF.... I hear stories of women who get into long texting relationships with lonely men and suddenly they need money for an emergency. I understand it can start out as 'bots expressing interests, starting conversations, then a human takes over when they have a "live one". I didn't pay for my OKcupid leads. Maybe that's where the bots were. I didn't have any approach me. At least, none that sent more than two texts before giving up. Maybe it helped that I put down "married" in my profile. (OKcupid is one of the very few that allows that). Married men may be very poor choices for scam targets?
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 20, 2020 18:34:23 GMT -5
... I can't tell you how many women have initiated a conversation and then didn't want to meet, although they wanted to keep on talking via POF.... I hear stories of women who get into long texting relationships with lonely men and suddenly they need money for an emergency. I understand it can start out as 'bots expressing interests, starting conversations, then a human takes over when they have a "live one". I didn't pay for my OKcupid leads. Maybe that's where the bots were. I didn't have any approach me. At least, none that sent more than two texts before giving up. Maybe it helped that I put down "married" in my profile. (OKcupid is one of the very few that allows that). Married men may be very poor choices for scam targets? I don't think the women that behaved in this fashion were plotting to scam me monetarily. My read on them is varied. Some I think were not on the site to date at all. They were there just to see if they "still had it". Probably were married and just wanting to flirt in a safe way. Others were probably just looking for "pen pals" although my profile specifically stated I wasn't interested in being a "pen pal". Others I think really had no clue as to what they were looking for in a male or the type of relationship they wanted. And I wasn't paying anything in the way of extras or premium status charges during my time there. I deleted (or tried to) my profile some 18-20 months ago when I was in a monogamous relationship. I still go to the site every couple months to see if there might be a potential candidate near me, but the pick'ens have really gotten slim.
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 22, 2020 11:38:30 GMT -5
I used to feel grateful that my now ex deigned to have sex with me. Now seven years divorced and involved with the love of my life I’m surprised and sad at how little I used to settle for.
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