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Post by tiredoftears on Jul 31, 2020 5:04:16 GMT -5
hopingforachangeHe watches soft vanilla type porn mostly. Shit that I find boring. HandyIt is not an ED problem. DryCreekNo... It doesn't motivate me to do anything different... I don't think? Can you give me an example of what you thought of in that question? cagedadventurerThank you for the compliment. jamesbondingWhile that may have been helpful advice in the last, I have actually killed any desire I had for him, and accept a platonic relationship. I am anxiously awaiting the pandemic to ease up, or a vaccine to be created or something so I don't fear a hookup with a rando. blueguyYeah, I prefer being with an actual person too... But to each their own, I guess? baza"He doesn't appear to have the skill set, the motivation, the orientation, or most importantly, the desire to be a suitable person for you to have a sexual relationship with." Thank you. You are right. He's not a bad guy, he's a really great guy. He just.... Needs to figure out a label to give me peace of mind. I know he's different, and I'm fine with that, as long as I'm not being lied to, and I have some way to title what he and I are, or what his sexual orientation is. Pretty sure he's a pornosexual, and that's fine, if he's just honest with me. I understand your desire for a nice, neat label to understand your husband. Back when I was married, I wanted one too. Is she asexual? Hell, is she gay? If I only had such a label, it wouldn't be "my fault". It would be on her and I could achieve some level of peace. I never received such an answer, but ballofconfusion did. Her ex is an out-of-the closet homosexual. I can tell you from her experience, though, knowing the "label" for certain does not make it easier. Quite the opposite. The need to know and presumed peace that comes with it is simply replaced by a feeling of "how the hell could I have not seen this" and "I wasted so many years with that man." Rather than focusing on the "why" of a label, try it accept the only label you truly know for certain: "I am in a sexless marriage". The why simply doesn't matter. Make your peace with THAT label and then choose from among your three options: Stay, cheat, or leave. Well, he and I decided together he is a pornosexual, and it DOES give me peace of mind. It is kind of hard to cheat, when he is encouraging me to have sex with other people, lol. I'm not going to leave him, he is kind, and an excellent provider, plus I can still have sex with other people? Yep, fine by me, now that I have a label. It makes it easier to explain to potential lovers now. I currently have one lover, but have explained that right now, I don't have the intention of sexual exclusivity. Initially, that is what I was seeking, and I want to get back to that point, but after the eye opener event the other weekend, I just want to get laid. So I am going to be having sex (always protected) with other people for.... Idk.... A little while. I actually just had a minor surgery today, but as soon as I am healed up,I sure am about to be fucking like crazy.
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 31, 2020 6:32:21 GMT -5
I understand your desire for a nice, neat label to understand your husband. Back when I was married, I wanted one too. Is she asexual? Hell, is she gay? If I only had such a label, it wouldn't be "my fault". It would be on her and I could achieve some level of peace. I never received such an answer, but ballofconfusion did. Her ex is an out-of-the closet homosexual. I can tell you from her experience, though, knowing the "label" for certain does not make it easier. Quite the opposite. The need to know and presumed peace that comes with it is simply replaced by a feeling of "how the hell could I have not seen this" and "I wasted so many years with that man." Rather than focusing on the "why" of a label, try it accept the only label you truly know for certain: "I am in a sexless marriage". The why simply doesn't matter. Make your peace with THAT label and then choose from among your three options: Stay, cheat, or leave. Well, he and I decided together he is a pornosexual, and it DOES give me peace of mind. It is kind of hard to cheat, when he is encouraging me to have sex with other people, lol. I'm not going to leave him, he is kind, and an excellent provider, plus I can still have sex with other people? Yep, fine by me, now that I have a label. It makes it easier to explain to potential lovers now. I currently have one lover, but have explained that right now, I don't have the intention of sexual exclusivity. Initially, that is what I was seeking, and I want to get back to that point, but after the eye opener event the other weekend, I just want to get laid. So I am going to be having sex (always protected) with other people for.... Idk.... A little while. I actually just had a minor surgery today, but as soon as I am healed up,I sure am about to be fucking like crazy. *clears throat, in my best Joey voice: How you doing?
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 31, 2020 7:47:16 GMT -5
Well, he and I decided together he is a pornosexual, and it DOES give me peace of mind. It is kind of hard to cheat, when he is encouraging me to have sex with other people, lol. I'm not going to leave him, he is kind, and an excellent provider, plus I can still have sex with other people? Yep, fine by me, now that I have a label. It makes it easier to explain to potential lovers now. I currently have one lover, but have explained that right now, I don't have the intention of sexual exclusivity. Initially, that is what I was seeking, and I want to get back to that point, but after the eye opener event the other weekend, I just want to get laid. So I am going to be having sex (always protected) with other people for.... Idk.... A little while. I actually just had a minor surgery today, but as soon as I am healed up,I sure am about to be fucking like crazy. My woman, who I have been with,going on 2 yrs now, was also married to a pornosexual. She tells me stories of how they were 'set up' to be married by their families,and she moved to America when she was 19 yrs. old. Then, how she struggled to have sex with him and all he wanted was to drink beer and jack off for hours to his Playboy channel!! Imagine that kind of rejection? Well....you don't have to... you've lived it Sadly her story gets worse about his narcissism and the violence. It's sad to imagine her, at 19 yrs. old , her beautiful self, being rejected, the real thing, for a screen image!! (fortunately she divorced him and his....problems) Her now 50 yr old self is soooo attractive, and I, fortunately, get to prove it to her daily Glad your surgery went well!
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