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Post by JMX on Mar 12, 2020 21:53:36 GMT -5
Thank you all for all of your replies! They are helpful.
Funny enough - and I conveniently forgot - but H got mad that the littlest put her bike in an inconvenient location in the garage/. The garage is riddled with a bunch of memorabilia - mine included, and about 6 months ago, he gave away a rocking chair I had since I was two that I wanted to give to my grandchildren. Not anything else, just my rocking chair... so back to all the mess in the garage - most is HIS mess: toy remote cars and boats, all of his tools. He picked up her bike and threw it breaking it. My dad took it to a shop to get it fixed and it cannot be fixed.
So, she has nowhere to park it because of him, and he throws it violently enough it cannot be fixed.
I am pissed into action.
Bonus - my recent birthday - my youngest knew I wanted a My Pillow - trappings of being 40ish. I value my sleep. I got a My Pillow and I KNOW it was because of her. I also got a card... about why we cannot spend time together because we are so busy. Hilarious!
I digress.
Carry on people. Love you weirdos.
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Post by JMX on Mar 12, 2020 22:07:05 GMT -5
Gaming can be addictive, with all the little dopamine rushes. Hit->reward, hit->reward, over and over. I can't imagine the suck of living with someone that puts getting to the next level of Grand Theft Auto at a higher level of importance than their partner's next orgasm. Let's not park this on "games". People watch TV as much as they play videogames and nobody claims "addiction". And framing it in terms of misplaced priorities, which merely need to be re-educated - like teaching basic manners - is the most common fallacy on this board. There is no possible way, with marriage and his household on the line - that he's not WELL AWARE of the stakes here. He's not "forgetting" to fuck his wife. This is not indifference. Indifference presents as "why not?". This is active avoidance for whatever his reasons are, and deflection. Whether the games were in the house or not, it still isn't going to happen. This isn't going to happen because it is very important to him for it not to happen. Important enough to stake his marriage on it. #truth.
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Post by dd on Mar 12, 2020 22:12:20 GMT -5
Thank you all for all of your replies! They are helpful. Funny enough - and I conveniently forgot - but H got mad that the littlest put her bike in an inconvenient location in the garage/. The garage is riddled with a bunch of memorabilia - mine included, and about 6 months ago, he gave away a rocking chair I had since I was two that I wanted to give to my grandchildren. Not anything else, just my rocking chair... so back to all the mess in the garage - most is HIS mess: toy remote cars and boats, all of his tools. He picked up her bike and threw it breaking it. My dad took it to a shop to get it fixed and it cannot be fixed. So, she has nowhere to park it because of him, and he throws it violently enough it cannot be fixed. I am pissed into action. Bonus - my recent birthday - my youngest knew I wanted a My Pillow - trappings of being 40ish. I value my sleep. I got a My Pillow and I KNOW it was because of her. I also got a card... about why we cannot spend time together because we are so busy. Hilarious! I digress. Carry on people. Love you weirdos. Good luck. Sounds like you have family close and I'm sure they'll understand if you need to lean on them during this transition.
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Post by warmways on Mar 19, 2020 13:06:10 GMT -5
JMX I just want to say good luck and you have so many better days ahead if you follow your heart and do what helps you.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 20, 2020 10:58:28 GMT -5
Thank you all for all of your replies! They are helpful. Funny enough - and I conveniently forgot - but H got mad that the littlest put her bike in an inconvenient location in the garage/. The garage is riddled with a bunch of memorabilia - mine included, and about 6 months ago, he gave away a rocking chair I had since I was two that I wanted to give to my grandchildren. Not anything else, just my rocking chair... so back to all the mess in the garage - most is HIS mess: toy remote cars and boats, all of his tools. He picked up her bike and threw it breaking it. My dad took it to a shop to get it fixed and it cannot be fixed. So, she has nowhere to park it because of him, and he throws it violently enough it cannot be fixed. I am pissed into action. Bonus - my recent birthday - my youngest knew I wanted a My Pillow - trappings of being 40ish. I value my sleep. I got a My Pillow and I KNOW it was because of her. I also got a card... about why we cannot spend time together because we are so busy. Hilarious! I digress. Carry on people. Love you weirdos. Here's an article that confirms your H's behaviors are all red flags. medium.com/recovering-after-a-divorce/the-trifecta-of-a-bad-marriage-d3e6447ae0bKeep posting about your actions , as you press forward!!
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Post by cagedadventurer on Mar 21, 2020 4:14:32 GMT -5
Red flags,
I think in this case with H of JMX, he's become brazen almost antagonistic in his disregard for her. The red flags per the article have been there for a long while. He just seems not to care about anything...except video games. This in and of itself makes a bad marriage. And a husband by title only.
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