Post by sweetplumeria on Mar 1, 2020 3:00:14 GMT -5
Well... we were watching a movie... hubby smoked out the house because he wasn't watching his cooking. He liked the movie we were watching "Anna".
So... With smoke in the air and him asking about doors etc. I had been opening doors, turning on the fan, and then moved some laundry to the dryer. I was going to move another load into the washer when he began yelling at me. I was getting in trouble for not watching the movie. Yelling at me to watch the movie and then when I yelled back he got even more mad saying that it's hard to be nice to me. He was mad at me for yelling at him. I like the movie but it's harder to enjoy as I am now a prisoner to it.
I am drinking now.
I don't feel like I can share with anyone... yet... I wish I wasn't alone dealing with this crazy. Why do I have to do everything he does? Why can't I stop watching a movie or load the washer?
Your H sounds like he is in serious need of mental health counselling. I have seen a few people with control issues but not to the degree you are describing for us with your H. I know it must be hard to share this type of abuse with others but I think it's time for you to get some help to address this situation. It's way past time if it drives you to grab some alcohol in order to deal with it.
Like the saying about fire, alcohol is a good servant but a harsh master. It is easy for us guys to say, "You do not shout at me, you have not earned the right to shout at me," without fearing a slap but you should try to find your safe response to the shouting. But stay safe.
mirrororchid: Thanks, Isthisit. Celebrating the day we broke from the UK and chose to govern ourselves! Looking like a less good idea the last 50 years, but a little late. The Brits might say, "No backsies."
Jul 7, 2021 18:03:59 GMT -5
Handy: Petrushka, How is your knee replacement recovery going?
Jul 15, 2021 0:22:34 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hope you are OK Tamara 68.....
Jul 16, 2021 11:11:59 GMT -5
petrushka: Handy it is going. Still painful. First session with the physio yesterday and he was enthusiastic about my range of movement, and says many people never even get that far after the full 6 weeks physio. OK, I'll take it ;-) but it still hurts. A lot.
Jul 16, 2021 15:58:37 GMT -5
petrushka: I was concerned about some things, like how far I can [not] lift my leg, straightened, but he allayed my worries on that account. Seems I'm not at all behind the curve.
Jul 16, 2021 16:02:27 GMT -5
Handy: Petrushka, I am happy to hear your range of motion is still decent. My W had knee surgery so I was aware of at least most of her rehabilitation difficulties. Yes, it still hurts big time for you but seeing my W's recovery, it takes time and exercising.
Jul 16, 2021 17:05:15 GMT -5
njsojourner: I hope everyone is well! Thought I would share that I am still having a blast outsourcing. I now have a regular fuck buddy and she is great. Same situation as me but a few years younger. In fact, her sex drive is crazier than mine and stranger.
Jul 16, 2021 21:50:15 GMT -5
njsojourner: Hi all. I thought I’d just share I am still having a blast — I now have a regular fuck buddy. She is younger by 6 years and full of energy and into fetishes-she likes to “force” me to have sex in public places —I love it.
Jul 16, 2021 21:54:49 GMT -5
tamara68: worksforme2: I am ok, thank you. The floods in Belgium are about 50 or 60 miles from where I live. The worst floods in decades.
Jul 17, 2021 8:54:44 GMT -5
Handy: I looked up several pages about the European floods and I saw pictures of what were possibly small streams before the floods but with all of the rain, became fast moving rivers that overflow the river banks and took everything for a wild ride.
Jul 19, 2021 15:13:23 GMT -5
petrushka: Oh man, if a river excavates 20-30 feet DOWN you have a bit of a weather event on your hands all right!
Jul 19, 2021 21:39:01 GMT -5