My favorite sex advice columnist and his expert guest advise a woman who has lost interest in sex after four years. Start at 32:50 to skip the garden variety relationship advice. Dan Savage is generally a big advocate for ending sexually incompatible relationships or occasionally for outsourcing when the benefits outweigh the harms.
Point 1, women get board with sex with the same live in man after 1 to 4 years and men take 10 years to get board with sex with the same live in woman.
Point 2, women with a new partner like sex because it is different or she wants to know the guy better. Which somewhat equals new is exciting but the known is boring.
Point 3, keep something in the sexual relationship sort of newish to avoid board-em.
They didn't cover the possibility that generating novelty between two people is: 1) exhausting 2) possibly expensive 3) maybe ineffective. Pheromones tell female bodies they're with the same male no matter what costumes or disguises you wear or which room of the house you use.
Poly needs to be destigmatized, for when nothing can make "leftovers" interesting. It's possible not every woman can get hot for the same guy in perpetuity. Or a guy after the decade it seems like it takes him to cool off too.
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fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5
wewbwb: jerri the average intelligence of the end posts rose greatly since I stopped posting ! Hope allis well!
Sept 26, 2020 7:29:23 GMT -5
jerri: Don't be too busy to post. Come back, wewbwb! 💜
Sept 26, 2020 20:12:33 GMT -5
Handy: Jerri, you bring intelligence, so stop that nonsense.
Sept 26, 2020 20:19:03 GMT -5
Handy: petrushka, I saved a picture of your solar panels and shop from an old post of yours. I like what I saw. Best wishes on getting the photons, or particles of light, to knock electrons free from atoms.
Sept 28, 2020 1:09:41 GMT -5
jerri: Handy, that's a really great Podcast so far. Robert Glover)
Sept 28, 2020 15:33:24 GMT -5
tamara68: wewbwb come back, you are missed here!
Oct 1, 2020 10:37:41 GMT -5