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Post by michael on Jan 2, 2020 18:14:27 GMT -5
Here is something funny that my wife said. At least it made me laugh. Not because it’s comedy material, but because it’s so stupid. Are you ready? Here it is.
”I don’t think it would matter who you are married to, you would have sex with any woman you married.”
Face in palm. OMFG! Do you think? What a fucking revelation she has come across.
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Post by Handy on Jan 2, 2020 20:00:50 GMT -5
itme ”I don’t think it would matter who you are married to, you would’NT have sex with any man you married.”As a statement, it would just back-fire. @ michael As a question: Would you like sex with some other man you really liked, or would the sex part still be close to zero even with another man? Don't answer the question for 24 hours and then tell me what you came up with. You want to avoid making the rut you are in any deeper.
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 4, 2020 15:17:51 GMT -5
Here was one conversation we had early on. Her: "You just married me because of the sex." Me: "If I was not interested in sex, I would have married a man." Her: (confused look) "Are you gay?!" Me: "No, I said, if I was NOT interested in sex. Men tend to be stronger and earn more, and enjoy guy humor. If sex was not a factor I would want a partner with different traits." If I could back it up and start over, I would have reversed the question as itme said, above.
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Post by michael on Jan 4, 2020 21:10:37 GMT -5
itme ”I don’t think it would matter who you are married to, you would’NT have sex with any man you married.”As a statement, it would just back-fire. @ michael As a question: Would you like sex with some other man you really liked, or would the sex part still be close to zero even with another man? Don't answer the question for 24 hours and then tell me what you came up with. You want to avoid making the rut you are in any deeper. I know the answer. She would tell me she wouldn’t have sex with any man. That is the best answer she can give, true or not, to advance her agenda, whatever that is.
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Post by jim44444 on Jan 5, 2020 19:36:01 GMT -5
Here is something funny that my wife said. At least it made me laugh. Not because it’s comedy material, but because it’s so stupid. Are you ready? Here it is. ”I don’t think it would matter who you are married to, you would have sex with any woman you married.” Face in palm. OMFG! Do you think? What a fucking revelation she has come across. Well duh. Why the hell would we (the high libido partner) get married to someone we didn't want to have sex with?
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Post by saarinista on Jan 6, 2020 4:30:52 GMT -5
Where the heck did you guys find these women? My lord!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2020 14:41:38 GMT -5
In our defense, some level of bait & switch is often involved : ) I can see my wife making a similar point, like somehow sex isn't part of a good marriage.
In my case, the sex was clearly going to be a problem long-term but it didn't seem like it when I was 25. We had sex once or twice a week, then less, then once a month, then 5-6 times per year now twice per year and you can put a fork in it...it's done. One of my wife's main points back when we still occasionally discussed it was that "we're old now". We weren't but she saw sex as something young people did. I don't think she purposefully baited & switched, she was just never all that interested and over time was really just done.
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Post by lessingham on Jan 6, 2020 17:48:00 GMT -5
And they lie. The old, things will be different when we marry, move, get our home, get the kids away etc etc. I think some women pkay the long con of refusing until we are too old to perform
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Post by baza on Jan 6, 2020 19:15:36 GMT -5
The wider point here is the ownership of ones choices.
Your spouse may choose to not engage in marital sex with you. They own that choice, and any consequences that ensue from that choice.
You, by choosing going along with it, are just as complicit in the situation. You own that choice, and any consequences that ensue from that choice.
In the sequence of events, "who chose to start the process of driving the marriage into the ditch" may or may not be known. But you sure as shit know, "who chose to go along with it".
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Post by Handy on Jan 6, 2020 23:33:34 GMT -5
saarinista Where the heck did you guys find these women? The early days were full of sex. Then 15 years into the marriage some health issues precipitated some financial issues. Jump forward to more medical issues and my W's breast lump and a 5 year "anti cancer drug" regime that kills off estrogen, now you have most of the factors that lead to a SM. To my W I was the problem because she said to me I "should have ED at my age" which to her, made the sex maniac for wanting sex 1X a week to her 4X times a year, then nothing.
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Post by Apocrypha on Jan 7, 2020 0:21:52 GMT -5
Here is something funny that my wife said. At least it made me laugh. Not because it’s comedy material, but because it’s so stupid. Are you ready? Here it is. ”I don’t think it would matter who you are married to, you would have sex with any woman you married.” Face in palm. OMFG! Do you think? What a fucking revelation she has come across. It's a dumb thing to say, but also revealing. Interpreting generously, perhaps she is trying to say she doesn't feel a unique mutual attraction or respect and assumes that disconnection to be so apparent that you must feel it too.
From that perspective, it would seem to her that you would want sex with her irrespective of the contempt between you - basically as a masturbatory tool. Your reasonable prioritization of sex and human needs with the person you love, gets interpreted as it's evil twin - that she's an unimportant meatbag receptacle for whatever you need to do. Poorly phrased, "you would have sex with any woman you married". Or, better, "You would marry any woman to have sex." Or even, "If you still want to have sex with me, in this circumstance, operating under these conditions, then you would pretty much have sex with anyone."
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