Officially divorced Jun 23, 2020 12:02:07 GMT -5 via Tapatalk DryCreek, padgemi, and 2 more like this
Post by elynne on Jun 23, 2020 12:02:07 GMT -5
The odds of older single men having some sort of relationship issues is definitely higher.
If they are still single, never been married or in a serious longterm partnership and they’re over 40, chances are avoidant or some other major issue.
If they are divorced and over 50, there is a reason for the divorce. Perhaps they lack an ability to discuss and work out issues in a healthy way. Maybe they can’t acknowledge and accept when a partner’s feelings or opinions differ from their own, maybe a narcissist or aspergers or borderline.
Your best bet is on a widower, or someone who is kindhearted and trusting and had the bad judgement to hitch their wagon to a wife with major issues.
Be forewarned. Most good guys have settled down and are making it work in the relationship they’re in. Be thankful that the ones you’re dating are showing their true colors early, before you develop an attachment to them!
When you find a good one, take it slow. Let it develop organically. And treasure him. Just as he will treasure you.
(Speaking from experience. My ex withheld affection, sex, attention, acknowledgement of my existence, access to joint accounts and finances once I traded in a finance career for motherhood. He was abusive physically, emotionally, financially. What hurt the most was his withholding affection.
In stark contrast my current boyfriend is thoughtful, generous, and kind. He adores me, loves kissing, cuddling, touching me. Offers massages out of the blue. Buys my favorite brand of tea to keep at his house. He listens when I’m sad, he cheers my successes, he accepts my shortcomings without expecting me to change and he loves
me. Me. Exactly as I am.
There are unicorns out there. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t treat you well.