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Post by workingonit on Feb 3, 2020 20:37:33 GMT -5
Go lawyer go!!! Bipolar is not a disqualifying condition for ANYTHING. Too bad being a total bitch is not either. Such cruelty is well worthy of the b word, IMO. itme you are doing great! Keep it up!
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Post by sadkat on Feb 3, 2020 20:57:02 GMT -5
Score one for your lawyer itme!
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 7, 2020 19:53:54 GMT -5
Finally a response from defendant's counsel. Something unique was added to the standard form response: "3. As to Husband's request to be primary residential parent, Wife would show that Husband is neither fit nor proper for such and has admitted that he has been diagnosed as Bi-Polar Disorder and as such, he is not sufficiently stable to care for minor children and further, any visitation, if awarded to Husband, should be with a supervisor subject to Wife's reasonable approval." Them's fightin' words! It's like they say " nothing's fair in love and war." So lets make war, not love! The first part of this was expected, but the supervisor bit is what we in the mental health community call a trigger. Yeah you go ahead and try to trigger me, woman. (You've been doing it so long I have pretty much mastered controlled chaos by now.) Oh and by the way, W texted me to make sure I will be back from Memphis in time to pick the girls up from school this afternoon. Forwarding to plaintiff's counsel right now. Curious to see if a supervisor will be there waiting... medium.com/@colleenorme/why-you-should-be-careful-leaving-a-narcissist-3697b536caa5
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Post by saarinista on Feb 19, 2020 17:30:12 GMT -5
I hate to say it but it's a good idea to have all of your financial/legal documentation in order- whether or not you're getting ready to divorce.
Please note....This does not imply that MY stuff is all organized either. 😕
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Post by angeleyes65 on Feb 19, 2020 17:41:42 GMT -5
I would like to add if one of you is staying in house figure out who's name the utilities are in or both. We both left our homes. The spouse stayed. All the the utilities and cable etc all in my name I paid hell getting him to change it. And my bf had some of the same issues. I also discovered that I can't use my turbo tax account which has all my stuff saved and transfers over automatically because I had his name listed first. That was most unpleasant. Just little things we keep finding out as time goes by lol
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 19, 2020 20:44:03 GMT -5
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Post by Handy on Feb 27, 2020 10:41:10 GMT -5
Iliza Shlesinge, never heard of her or about her. I did look her up, a good Comedian.
I have several filters and blockers on my computer browser.
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Post by sadkat on Mar 12, 2020 23:08:34 GMT -5
itme- I’m sorry! Your lawyer handled her previous lies very well. I’m sure he’ll handle these additional fabrications just as well. Hang in there!
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Post by workingonit on Mar 13, 2020 5:38:21 GMT -5
itme isn't it scary to be married for so long and think at the very least you know someone and then realize they are someone else entirely? You did not give details but I am assuming she is trying to use your mental health against you. Just a reminder- that is unethical and wrong. Stay strong AND break down with support when you need to! Keep posting
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 13, 2020 19:11:51 GMT -5
Sadly, this can be part of divorcing a manipulative controller. They, with the help of their attorney, will throw whatever mud they can at you to see what sticks. It's a process, not a very fair one and sometimes illegal, but... it certainly helps reinforce your decision to continue your life, without a ball and chain always belittling and controlling you. Here's to new beginnings!
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 13, 2020 21:03:16 GMT -5
Sadly, this can be part of divorcing a manipulative controller. They, with the help of their attorney, will throw whatever mud they can at you to see what sticks. It's a process, not a very fair one and sometimes illegal, but... it certainly helps reinforce your decision to continue your life, without a ball and chain always belittling and controlling you. Here's to new beginnings! All that! Also: for someone with a condition it is triggering AF! I can’t get any work done turning this over and over in my head. It’s a constant struggle just to remember to breathe. Perhaps that’s part of her game. My heart goes out to you! Sadly, this (manipulation) has been happening to you longer than you realize. Drip,drip,drip. Just another cog in the SM wheel! Hopefully, you will come out the winner, and can heal and recover. Then, in hindsight, be thankful for your new chance at joy and peace. You have dealt with her tactics (game) for this long (and survived, sometimes even managed to defeat her controlling tactics) only now she knows your eyes are open. Continue to ask for help and guidance with those you trust!
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Post by Handy on Mar 15, 2020 20:40:32 GMT -5
Padgemi, I am still on your side even if I can't do anything about what happened to you.
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Post by northstarmom on Mar 15, 2020 21:04:25 GMT -5
Padgemi, I’m so sorry you have been going through so many painful experiences. I hope you find comfort and healing during these excruciating times.
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Post by sadkat on Mar 15, 2020 22:34:25 GMT -5
I’m sorry itme! Hoping there is light at the end of the tunnel for you soon ! Hang in there!
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Post by baza on Mar 15, 2020 23:27:57 GMT -5
Brother itme . You ARE going to get through this. And you ARE going to be a bit banged up by the experience. And that experience is going to be a major tool in your pocket when (not if) the time comes to move into the next phase of your life. You are going to be magnificently well prepared for whatever comes up. This shit you are currently dealing with is short term - there'll be an end to it. You are playing the longer game. Stick with it Brother.
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