Have to say Oct 23 was my 2nd anniversary that passed since I got out. No drama from my ex. He was driving me crazy I finally blocked everything but email. He finally seems to be getting a grip. My daughter got married we walked her down the aisle together. Have to tell you I got drunk the night before. The thought of spending the afternoon with him made me ill. He showed up 90 minutes early which I wasn't expecting. But he actually helped and no drama. He still doesn't know I'm seeing someone else much less living with them. But be I'm keeping the dogs for him in Dec for a week so I guess he will soon. I feel like that's my last hurtle. His friends and family know. I still haven't met his daughter or his sister but I'm guessing in time I will. He hasn't been out as long I'm sure his daughter will get better with it as time passes.
Curious: did the idea of your daughter getting her very own ball and chain contribute to your drinking at all? Asking for a friend;
No. I'm happy for her she's 35 has a good head on her shoulders . That being said my marriage made her not want to get married .. Ever. Hence her getting married at 35. And that surprised me. My getting drunk the night before was just stress of how he was going to act. If he was going to cause drama. But he played nice now I know it wasn't for her sake it was just his plan B to try to get me to drop my guard and spend time with him. But whatever the reason I'm thankful he showed up and behaved for her sake. All though now she's mad at him and probably has blocked him .
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5