As protest, I stopped doing his laundry and taught the children to do their own years ago. That one cracked me up because he takes foreveah doing his own and lets it pile and pile.
I stopped showering in our bathroom and do it in the girls’ bathroom. We keep ours pretty clean and his is a fucking disaster.
He turned our guest room into his game room and my mom joked that I put everything in there I want to get rid of to choke him out. She’s probably right but it has not worked. He remains among all the things I have not found a place for or gotten rid of yet.
If I want something done, I simply do it. Or pay for it. I now have a pool guy, and a landscaper. He wanted the pool and the nice corner lot- mind you.
I usually take the 85 pound dog to the groomer because I cannot pick him up (or handle him) myself to wash him. He also got the dog. He was supposedly the “dog whisperer” of dog trainers, but my 10 year old monster follows me around and a not a very good boy!
I hold all the children’s appointments and events in my head, and I am the one that keeps them in line as best I can for academic and extras as well as household stuff. My mom does help out a lot due to my work schedule.
I work more hours too.
I see this as great practice at being single - although, I do hope and constantly wish partnership and co-parenting into existence.
Oh well.
Lot in life or challenge in life? It is only up to us.