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Post by isthisit on Nov 15, 2019 19:23:16 GMT -5
Nope, this is a non starter here. Work and play are separate entities for me. I work with quite a few couples who met at work, and good luck to them.
I guess my issue is that it’s unimaginable to be intimate with someone who gets to see and experience those highly private moments, and then likely separate and sit across from each other at a meeting. Would he be remembering? I am not at all judging others here, but definitely not for me.
The other points above in relation to bias and power relations are all important and valid, but don’t compare with someone around the table possibly recalling me in ‘that’ moment, ‘that’ expression, ‘those’ murmurings. Agh, I need a therapist just thinking about it ...
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Post by Apocrypha on Dec 9, 2019 10:12:47 GMT -5
]I've been guilty of sex at work. I had a fling with one of the top bosses at my old job. He was safe to play with as I knew he had as much to loose as me. It was fun and no one knew. It also led to perks for me as he made his whole sales crew cooperate with me and my sales skyrocketed. I had a couple other bits of fun while I was there. I am sure a couple guys talked but I didnt really care. I had fun and no trouble came of it. I also knew what my limits were and got a good feeling of them before I ever went there. I had 1 occurence where a colleague got jealous of my sales numbers and made accusations but they were basically laughed at by upper management because well I was with him also and he thought he was the only one. God that job was fun. And that's how your boss and the company gets sued. Most people come to it with the expectation that the person launching the suit is the person who sleeps with their supervisor or superior, but more often than not it's the people AROUND them who perceive that they are treated unfairly as a result of the affair, creating a toxic work environment and flight of talent.
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Post by idgaf96 on Dec 9, 2019 12:43:13 GMT -5
]I've been guilty of sex at work. I had a fling with one of the top bosses at my old job. He was safe to play with as I knew he had as much to loose as me. It was fun and no one knew. It also led to perks for me as he made his whole sales crew cooperate with me and my sales skyrocketed. I had a couple other bits of fun while I was there. I am sure a couple guys talked but I didnt really care. I had fun and no trouble came of it. I also knew what my limits were and got a good feeling of them before I ever went there. I had 1 occurence where a colleague got jealous of my sales numbers and made accusations but they were basically laughed at by upper management because well I was with him also and he thought he was the only one. God that job was fun. And that's how your boss and the company gets sued. Most people come to it with the expectation that the person launching the suit is the person who sleeps with their supervisor or superior, but more often than not it's the people AROUND them who perceive that they are treated unfairly as a result of the affair, creating a toxic work environment and flight of talent. Your right that it could have gone terrible. Thankfully I was lucky. Just an fyi. He wasn't my boss. He was the boss in the department I had to work with.
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Post by flashjohn on Dec 12, 2019 15:05:58 GMT -5
I never considered outsourcing with anyone I worked with or anyone who worked in the courthouse at all. To me, that would have just been asking for trouble. It is just too easy to be found out. Even dogs don't shit where they eat.
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Post by ironhamster on Dec 18, 2019 23:14:59 GMT -5
There is likely a difference between people in long term professional careers and jobs they perceive as shorter term.
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Post by ScottDinTN on Dec 20, 2019 21:10:23 GMT -5
Ive never been in the situation of having a woman wanting to be more than friends with me at work. I can see how it could cause drama. I also see the point that someone made that it is one of the few places that we go regularly where we can get to know people and make friends.
There’s a woman at work I’ve started talking to lately. She was having a hard day once and I listened to her as she talked about it and cried. It seemed to mean a lot to her. I don’t chat with many at work. She seems to be about the only one that wants to talk. I am attracted to her but doubt it will go anywhere. She’s married and a Christian. But its nice just to talk with someone. We often talk in here about the loss of our sexual relationship in our marriages. Guess I’ve been realizing lately that I’ve also lost having someone to share my day with too.
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