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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2019 14:55:23 GMT -5
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Post by deadzone75 on Sept 18, 2019 15:42:11 GMT -5
I would be just fine if my W had her nose in her phone if she was at least sitting in my lap. I was ignored long before the mobile craze really took hold.
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DrNo
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Post by DrNo on Sept 18, 2019 16:10:42 GMT -5
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DrNo
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Post by DrNo on Sept 18, 2019 16:13:23 GMT -5
I’ve been replaced by a lot of things.
- phone - dog - kids - work colleagues - her mum - clothes shopping
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I do like the image I have posted above.
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Post by Apocrypha on Sept 18, 2019 16:21:09 GMT -5
How many of us feel replaced by a smartphone or tablet? What other personal relationships have suffered because of device overuse, be it your own usage or someone else's? It's a more attractive prospect to blame the device, or the porn, or the TV, or the affair partner or the game, or the kids, because it frames the problem as an "obsession" that is overriding what must be a clear priority -you - like a crack addict buying drugs instead of food. Then you can be on the same "side" and you can still feel that you are important to your wayward partner. If not for the device, you'd have a great life. The harder way, though, is to recognize that what's happening is an accurate reading of YOUR priority, and that the phone, the porn, the TV, the affair partner, the game or kids is their way of surviving a relationship in which they are entwined but not invested. Take one away, and it gets replaced with a different distraction.
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Post by baza on Sept 18, 2019 18:17:41 GMT -5
The "why" could well be "the smartphone and/or tablet" in some ILIASM situations, just as it oould be any other of the "whys" seen in here.
As a photo essay however, I reckon it is pretty good. I particularly liked photo #8 with the mobile BBQ setup, and the kid on the left holding the axe.
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Post by angeleyes65 on Sept 25, 2019 9:10:41 GMT -5
Sad thing is we both became addicted to smart devices for avoidance of our now ex's and it was how we communicated during the affair. Old habits die hard. We have to remind ourselves and each other to put our gadgets down sometimes. As far as my ex I did feel replaced by his computer both for games and porn but after awhile it provided me with the freedom to find an ap and keep in contact so...
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Post by lessingham on Sept 25, 2019 10:49:37 GMT -5
Maybe devices are a symptom not a cause. Paul Simon was singing about the dangling conversation back in the 60s. People retreat behind phones or books or newspapers for reasons. And men watch porn for many reasons too.
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Post by ironhamster on Sept 25, 2019 20:09:28 GMT -5
I grew up in a household with busy active parents, so having a spouse that was wrapped up in thought staring at a screen was no big deal within itself. I do think it was just one symptom of a much bigger problem, though. My ex was into her Facebook and her network marketing business done on the internet. I suspect the latter netted her about fifty cents an hour, which, to be generous, is more than most people make on their hobbies.
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Post by jim44444 on Sept 26, 2019 5:18:26 GMT -5
It seems ironic that I am sitting in an airport reading this thread on my smartphone.
I think the mobile devices are just can evolutionary upgrade from books and magazines and TV. It is easier to avoid difficult conversations then to engage. The advantage of mobile devices is that we can also interact with others online. Our avoidance is no longer a solitary endeavor.
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Post by lessingham on Sept 30, 2019 3:08:42 GMT -5
My wife has just bought a tablet so she can interact more with her Youtube influencers. So far it rests on her dressing table unused. Not sure if this is a good or bad thing, but a waste of money yes.
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