Post by worksforme2 on Nov 14, 2019 16:44:36 GMT -5
northstarmom, the short answer is yes there is. Actually the other grandparents also are caregivers for the grandkids. I watch them 3 days a week and the other 2 weekdays the other grandparents step in. I am retired and the others are employed. The grandkids parents both work full time. As for employing a sitter the parents do not have the money. I do usually have 4 days a week when I can do my own activities. But I don't seem to be able to find a lot of spare time to do anything other than maintaining my property and attending to maintenance issues for my church. I plan to cut back on some of the church stuff at the end of the year and hopefully I can find some community activities to participate in to make some new friends.
Post by lessingham on Nov 26, 2019 10:28:59 GMT -5
Wow. I had a round robin invite to a Christmas meal from a guy I knew in university! There is a group of men from my old university meeting for a meal in London. I said yes! Adventures breed adventures.
The day of the Christmas meal and I am scared and do not want to go. I am scared I will relapse into my old university persona, a spineless ghost, or everyone will be successful and rich. Do poor failures ever go to university reunions?
I am on the train and going. I love train journeys, I see them as the start of adventures. I love London. It is a meal so if I lose the ball of conversation I can stuff food in my mouth. And it is good practice as maybe someday I will be travelling to meet the woman I should have met 40 years ago!
Post by northstarmom on Dec 17, 2019 9:14:11 GMT -5
I’m glad you are going. View success as your getting out of your comfort zone and expanding your life by going to the dinner.
As for conversation, good conversationalists draw others out about themselves. Ask people about what they do for fun, what their treasured memories of college were, in what ways have they changed or how they view life differently compared to how they were and thought as students. Ask about favorite books and movies and why they like those things. And, of course, answer the questions you pose to others.
Questions like that lead to real connections that can lead to friendships.
The book Breaking The Male Code: Unblocking the Powet of Friendship May be something that will help you learn to build on your new connections after.
Google “200 questions to get to know someone” for great questions to ask (and answer) to get to know others and deepen relations.
FWIW my view of myself in college was that I was shy, awkward and quiet as I was a small town girl struggling to adjust to a big city and sophisticated classmates. To my surprise, when I went to my 25th reunion, I learned that some of my classmates remembered me as having been very thoughtful and having intriguing viewpoints that inspired them to reconsider their own views.
The kind of event you are going to also can be a chance to learn from others who are living the kind of life you admire. I’ve found that the people I most admire are not those with the most money or most impressive jobs but are those with the courage to create lives that fulfill them. I’ve learned a lot from them and developed the ways to live such a life myself.
Post by lessingham on Dec 17, 2019 14:42:38 GMT -5
It was a good event. For guys who had never met in 40 years we did more than okay. A retrospective sadness that I had actually missed such good people in my life. But as we do the hard social thing, we find they are not so hard. The funniest, and most blokish moment, came at the end. One guy said he had so enjoyed the meal, he had settled the bill. He was buried in a snowstorm of 10 pound notes, everyone laughing and joking.
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petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5