Hearing " I' m sorry" when mentioning your divorce.

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Hearing " I' m sorry" when mentioning your divorce. Aug 2, 2019 16:02:47 GMT -5 hopingforachange likes this

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I remember this quite well! I found myself telling people " That's okay. It's actually a good thing! It was better for everyone", and continuing on from there.

That changed their perspective, and approach to speaking about my divorce with me.

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warmways Full Member Posts: 469 Age Range: 56-60	Hearing " I' m sorry" when mentioning your divorce. Aug 3, 2019 23:28:09 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by warmways on Aug 3, 2019 23:28:09 GMT -5 Same with me. Heard it all the time and I used to say the exact same thing.

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Hearing " I' m sorry" when mentioning your divorce. Aug 10, 2019 6:03:45 GMT -5 via mobile warmways, thefullmoon, and 1 more like this

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Post by mescaline on Aug 10, 2019 6:03:45 GMT -5

I think it's probably a case of "I'm sorry your marriage was so shit" rather than aorry you're divorcing.

Which is fair enough really!

But it's probably a semantic argument anyway.

Although i guess from a religious perspective then folk maybe sorry about the divorce...

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Hearing " I' m sorry" when mentioning your divorce. Aug 14, 2019 3:08:15 GMT -5 warmways, greatcoastal, and 3 more like this

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Post by elkclan2 on Aug 14, 2019 3:08:15 GMT -5

People know divorce is a shit experience even if the marriage was worse! But I did have people say to me "I usually say 'Sorry', but in your case - congratulations." :-)

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Hearing " I' m sorry" when mentioning your divorce.

Post by greatcoastal on Aug 2, 2019 16:02:47 GMT -5

Post by warmways on Aug 3, 2019 23:28:09 GMT -5

Post by solodriver on Aug 4, 2019 15:55:59 GMT -5

Post by mescaline on Aug 10, 2019 6:03:45 GMT -5

Post by elkclan2 on Aug 14, 2019 3:08:15 GMT -5

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