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Post by shamwow on Aug 5, 2019 7:39:14 GMT -5
Wow! Pre-marital blood tests for STI’s!!! I considered that possibility and discounted it as daft. It’s a good job those tests are out of commission today. My mum worked in our local GUM clinic for 25 years and tells me there are only a few people we know who have not been through there. They’d be testing for those without...... Nice story though. Perhaps, but if we'd had those done before the wedding, I might have found out my ex had HPV. not normally a big thing except I was a virgin before her and she claimed the same with me. Again, not unusual someone would lie about that, but we lived together for years before tying the knot. So a couple weeks after the honeymoon she had to get laser surgery to burn the warts off. She had her doctor lie to my face it wasn't an STD. I was naive and believed. She used her "medical condition" to essentially cut me off for the rest of the marriage. On the occasions she allowed sex, it was "excruciatingly" painful. Fast forward to the divorce 20 years later and she let it slip that she'd had HPV. I remember finding out and almost breaking my right hand on the heavy bag in the garage that afternoon. So, I do see some value in mandatory blood work - at least in my situation.
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Post by jim44444 on Aug 5, 2019 14:37:32 GMT -5
shamwow, since nearly 80% of the adult population has one of the 2 forms of HPV your ex having it is no surprise. The problem is she lied about her status. Deliberate omission is a lie. Her doctor lied and should have his liscense revoked. He could have said he was not authorized to discuss her condition with you.
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Post by shamwow on Aug 5, 2019 23:28:33 GMT -5
shamwow, since nearly 80% of the adult population has one of the 2 forms of HPV your ex having it is no surprise. The problem is she lied about her status. Deliberate omission is a lie. Her doctor lied and should have his liscense revoked. He could have said he was not authorized to discuss her condition with you. Yup. Not surprising she lied about it. She lied about a number of things, large and small. However now she is no longer my problem. 😊
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Post by Apocrypha on Aug 6, 2019 8:18:54 GMT -5
shamwow , since nearly 80% of the adult population has one of the 2 forms of HPV your ex having it is no surprise. The problem is she lied about her status. Deliberate omission is a lie. Her doctor lied and should have his liscense revoked. He could have said he was not authorized to discuss her condition with you. In addition to being common to some 80+% of the population, it can also be transmitted by skin contact. While it's improbable, it is also possible to transmit it without penetrative sex, which most people associate with "losing one's virginity".
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 6, 2019 10:34:14 GMT -5
Backing up what apocrypha said, here’s what the Centers for Diseas control says; “HPV is a very common virus that can be spread from one person to another person through anal, vaginal, or oral sex, or through other close skin-to-skin touching during sexual activity. 79 million Americans, most in their late teens and early 20s, are infected with HPV. Nearly all sexually active people who do not get the HPV vaccine get infected with HPV at some point in their lives. It is important to understand that getting HPV is not the same thing as getting HIV or HSV (herpes).”
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Post by Handy on Aug 10, 2019 23:44:07 GMT -5
No HPV testing or that much knowledge about HPV when I got M. Testing was for Syphilis and the other common STD's at the time.
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Post by hopingforachange on Aug 11, 2019 9:26:07 GMT -5
Wow! Pre-marital blood tests for STI’s!!! I considered that possibility and discounted it as daft. It’s a good job those tests are out of commission today. My mum worked in our local GUM clinic for 25 years and tells me there are only a few people we know who have not been through there. They’d be testing for those without...... Nice story though. Perhaps, but if we'd had those done before the wedding, I might have found out my ex had HPV. not normally a big thing except I was a virgin before her and she claimed the same with me. Again, not unusual someone would lie about that, but we lived together for years before tying the knot. So a couple weeks after the honeymoon she had to get laser surgery to burn the warts off. She had her doctor lie to my face it wasn't an STD. I was naive and believed. She used her "medical condition" to essentially cut me off for the rest of the marriage. On the occasions she allowed sex, it was "excruciatingly" painful. Fast forward to the divorce 20 years later and she let it slip that she'd had HPV. I remember finding out and almost breaking my right hand on the heavy bag in the garage that afternoon. So, I do see some value in mandatory blood work - at least in my situation. Given that hpv is crazy easy to spread she might have been telling the truth or she's still a virgin if she didn't take a dick in the pussy. The ass or mouth doesn't count, aka Catholic virgin. or if she just played with the ladies.
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Post by angeleyes65 on Aug 14, 2019 8:35:40 GMT -5
@ Michael Eventually you will not only not care who she sleeps with but be hoping she leaves you for him. It goes in stages unless you are one of the ones that can financially and emotionally take charge and leave soon. At first I thought it was something wrong with me and jumped through hoops. Then I knew it was him. But the thought of him having sex with someone else meant he still desired human contact but not with me while I was going without basic human intimacy made me think I would likely go to jail if I found out. Then I was so detached I didn't care that he was taking care of himself . Didn't care if he found someone else either. Eventually I started hoping he would find someone so I could get out without feeling like an asshole. I've been out for 2 years I. June. I told him even before I physically moved to start dating. At this point I don't care either way but I feel like if he had someone he would leave me alone. But he seems content to wallow in the mess he created. As for me I'm loving life!
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