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Post by saarinista on Apr 23, 2019 0:31:42 GMT -5
FYI, I looked up several sources and they give estimates of $30,000 and upward as the average wedding cost these days. I suppose it depends on whether you include stuff like the honeymoon and the rings as opposed to just the ceremony itself, but it's not hard for me to imagine how you could spend $30,000 or more on a wedding, especially in a big city with a sit down dinner and 200 guests. Of course, not everyone has that-I just ended up getting married in the courthouse-but we were planning a reaffirmation ceremony in a smaller Midwestern city (cancelled unfortunately by my dad's death) and it probably would have been $20,000 had we gone through with it. And that was with me doing a lot of it on the cheap. Stuff just adds up, and if you're going to have people to a wedding, I didn't want to cheap out on the food. Alcohol of course is a big variable. We were just going to do a champagne toast, which is fairly cheap, but if you have an open bar, the costs run up quickly.
Here in Atlanta, $50,000+++ weddings are not at all unusual. I don't think it's a good idea to spend that much unless you can easily afford it, but many people are not like us. Whether or not it affects the marriage is anyone's guess.
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Post by Handy on Apr 23, 2019 2:01:48 GMT -5
I heard the $30K part. I don'y know if that was the total or the abandoned husbands half after the wife left. $50K weddings in Atlanta? ? Un real!! I guess I don't fit in to today's society. Where I used to go to church, the bride and or groom bought the food and the kitchen volunteers set up side room and served the food for maybe 20 or 30 people. Funerals were done in a similar fashion. When my son was married the rustic town that people stayed at over night (2 nights - Friday afternoon to noon Sunday) rented out for $1,500 accommodated 20 people (beds) and included breakfast for 2 mornings. It is 30 miles from any modern town and used to be a railroad stop when sheep ranching was popular before WWII. The place is popular with people that want to get away from technology. OTH, I know divorced people that are in new relationships that seem good to me but the people say they will never marry again because the divorce was a bunch of attacks on both sides that lasted too long.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 24, 2019 3:00:43 GMT -5
...OTH, I know divorced people that are in new relationships that seem good to me but the people say they will never marry again because the divorce was a bunch of attacks on both sides that lasted too long. (Raises hand.) I may stay with the woman I love for the rest of my life, but I will never marry again.
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Post by elkclan2 on Apr 24, 2019 3:57:33 GMT -5
I am planning on getting married again. I just bought a fancy dress... from eBay.
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Post by saarinista on Apr 25, 2019 0:59:47 GMT -5
...OTH, I know divorced people that are in new relationships that seem good to me but the people say they will never marry again because the divorce was a bunch of attacks on both sides that lasted too long. (Raises hand.) I may stay with the woman I love for the rest of my life, but I will never marry again. ironhamster you just hush now. ππ I am a card carrying feminist and liberal, but every girly girl wants to play princess and weddings are where we get to do it. if you decide to commit again, please don't deny your woman her rare opportunity to dress up. πππππ There are ways to have nice weddings for much less than the average amounts given by the wedding industry, too. like buying an eBay dress, doing your own flowers, cutting back on the booze, inviting fewer people...the list goes on. You'll do more yourself, but hey,one does what they have to.
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Post by Handy on Apr 25, 2019 2:12:28 GMT -5
Saarinista ....but every girly girl wants to play princess and weddings are where we get to do it.I believe you? It was also a topic of a Dr Phil program and included several of the other things girls/women practice long before they get into relationships.
Bad joke, be warned!
How do you tell which guy is the groom at a (currently looked down upon ethnic group)______________ wedding? He is the guy with the cleanest bowling team shirt.
This never happened in real life.
That used to be comical when bowling teams were very popular. Remember there were NO VCR's, home air conditioning was rare at the time but bowling alleys had air conditioning, so lots of people bowled. The newest thing was color TV and bowling was one way to socialize.
Every guy I knew that got married dressed appropriately but his outfit was usually rented for the day so it didn't have all of that mental or emotional attachment. It was a once and done clothing wise.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 25, 2019 2:31:03 GMT -5
(Raises hand.) I may stay with the woman I love for the rest of my life, but I will never marry again. ironhamster you just hush now. ππ I am a card carrying feminist and liberal, but every girly girl wants to play princess and weddings are where we get to do it. if you decide to commit again, please don't deny your woman her rare opportunity to dress up. πππππ There are ways to have nice weddings for much less than the average amounts given by the wedding industry, too. like buying an eBay dress, doing your own flowers, cutting back on the booze, inviting fewer people...the list goes on. You'll do more yourself, but hey,one does what they have to. I have a story to pass on. She was going through old wedding photos, before a divorce was ever talked about, and her daughter commented about how pretty she looked, then asked if she could be the flower girl at her next wedding. Her husband was not amused.
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Post by twotimesone on Apr 25, 2019 9:08:47 GMT -5
Someone in the family I barely know got married. It was a 2 day affair. Dress price up there, Big tent alongside the Hudson River north of NYC. I wouldn't be surprised it cost $30K or more. The bride's family has big bucks. People fly in from the west coast. Thirty days after the big show, the new brides said she was done and moves to live with her AP. A wedding is an overpriced expense. I know of couples who have spent big on the wedding only to have their marriage fail quickly after. No offense to you ladies, but women tend to look forward to the wedding much more than the marriage.
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Post by isthisit on Apr 25, 2019 10:10:16 GMT -5
Someone in the family I barely know got married. It was a 2 day affair. Dress price up there, Big tent alongside the Hudson River north of NYC. I wouldn't be surprised it cost $30K or more. The bride's family has big bucks. People fly in from the west coast. Thirty days after the big show, the new brides said she was done and moves to live with her AP. A wedding is an overpriced expense. I know of couples who have spent big on the wedding only to have their marriage fail quickly after. No offense to you ladies, but women tend to look forward to the wedding much more than the marriage. Hey now, please don't lump us all in together! Actually, I agree with you in the main, far too many women seem crazy about the dress and the attention rather than the groom. But, there are just a few of us who hate fuss and think the sums of money involved are ridiculous. If I could be persuaded to marry again I would insist on no-one but the groom and I at the ceremony (preferably without telling anyone about the event), somewhere pretty for the service and an astonishing honeymoon where I could bask in simply being alone with him . Sharing your life with someone you adore is the prize, right?
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Post by firefollower on Apr 25, 2019 15:35:33 GMT -5
can't resist....did you hear about the food that makes women allergic to sex?........wedding cake........sorry, just reinforcing the stereotype.
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Post by sadkat on Apr 25, 2019 16:40:28 GMT -5
can't resist....did you hear about the food that makes women allergic to sex?........wedding cake........sorry, just reinforcing the stereotype. Well if thatβs the case, Iβll avoid eating wedding cake from now on! π
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Post by flashjohn on Apr 25, 2019 16:52:21 GMT -5
Well, I will go to a wedding if it is a close friend or relative, but I think an expensive wedding is a big waste of money. Kimmie & I went to the courthouse & were married by a Justice of the Peace. No fuss, just she and I.
My ExRefuser planned every single detail of the wedding, but never gave a thought to the marriage. Of course, she also wouldn't fuck on the honeymoon. I should have packed up and left the morning after and had the joke of a marriage annulled.
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Post by firefollower on Apr 25, 2019 17:02:00 GMT -5
Well, I will go to a wedding if it is a close friend or relative, but I think an expensive wedding is a big waste of money. Kimmie & I went to the courthouse & were married by a Justice of the Peace. No fuss, just she and I. My ExRefuser planned every single detail of the wedding, but never gave a thought to the marriage. Of course, she also wouldn't fuck on the honeymoon. I should have packed up and left the morning after and had the joke of a marriage annulled. Yes, makes you wonder if the whole thing was a sham from the beginning...for me, before the wedding, sex everyday, never said a mean word to me...I was always looking out for her....then, literally driving from our wedding reception to the hotel (three hours after we said our I do's)...she states, I am going to just go to bed...she had never done that to me before...oh, and she also told me that I was driving the car too fast (also never discussed my driving in the 2 years we were dating)....3 HOURS AFTER WE WERE MARRIED....WTF!
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Post by Handy on Apr 25, 2019 18:19:03 GMT -5
Flashjohn she also wouldn't fuck on the honeymoon.
That just isn't right!
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Post by twotimesone on Apr 26, 2019 14:27:08 GMT -5
A wedding is an overpriced expense. I know of couples who have spent big on the wedding only to have their marriage fail quickly after. No offense to you ladies, but women tend to look forward to the wedding much more than the marriage. Hey now, please don't lump us all in together! Actually, I agree with you in the main, far too many women seem crazy about the dress and the attention rather than the groom. But, there are just a few of us who hate fuss and think the sums of money involved are ridiculous. If I could be persuaded to marry again I would insist on no-one but the groom and I at the ceremony (preferably without telling anyone about the event), somewhere pretty for the service and an astonishing honeymoon where I could bask in simply being alone with him . Sharing your life with someone you adore is the prize, right? "If I could be persuaded to marry again" is just an afterthought. I'm sure that most women whom are married the first time would want that 'once in a lifetime' experience.
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