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Post by Handy on May 27, 2019 0:23:55 GMT -5
PS, when I was in college (me age ~42) I held the door open for a few women my age and the women in question said they could manage the door on their own and didn't need or want a man to do something so trivial for them.
I think they got out of abusive relationships and now men were the enemy.
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Post by sadkat on May 27, 2019 9:54:59 GMT -5
PS, when I was in college (me age ~42) I held the door open for a few women my age and the women in question said they could manage the door on their own and didn't need or want a man to do something so trivial for them. I think they got out of abusive relationships and now men were the enemy. I know women like this exist but it’s beyond me why a woman would be offended by someone opening a door for them. I live in a state where southern gentlemen were raised the right way by their mamas. I’m actually surprised when a man doesn’t open a door for me! Don’t let comments from a few misguided women change your habits Handy. I’ll speak for the majority of women and tell you that we don’t mind at all if you open a door for us! |
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Post by northstarmom on May 27, 2019 10:03:51 GMT -5
I agree with sadkat. I say "thank-you when a man opens a door for me." I also open doors for other people such as elderly, disabled, people pushing strollers, etc. Doing these things is common courtesy. If people get offended when one offers such courtesy, they are the rude ones.
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Post by Handy on May 27, 2019 15:29:41 GMT -5
Sadkat
Don’t let comments from a few misguided women change your habits handy. I’ll speak for the majority of women and tell you that we don’t mind at all if you open a door for us!
I still open or hold open doors for women or anyone that I see that might benefit in any way, including what NSM posted.
As far as determining how others feel about such things I am guessing I am doing the correct thing by most people's standards and likes. There are a few occasions where I suspect I should have minded my own business.
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Post by jim44444 on May 28, 2019 21:06:58 GMT -5
Does anyone have a clue how this thread went from womens infidelity to opening doors?
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Post by sadkat on May 28, 2019 21:15:12 GMT -5
Does anyone have a clue how this thread went from womens infidelity to opening doors? Nope! It’s the way we roll around here jim44444! 😂. Thanks for making me laugh! |
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Post by Handy on May 28, 2019 21:24:08 GMT -5
Well, maybe the drift is my fault. I read about someone thinking "maybe x woman was or did have an affair. So I brought up some anti-man crap I experienced in college to point out I have no knowledge of women in affairs or considering affairs, especially because of the negativity I personally experienced.
Northstarmom and a few other women have posted there are women that have a sexual side but myself and a few other male posters have not detected women who express an interest in sexual matters in general and not with us in particular.
Bottom line, do some women engage in affairs? Yes but none that I have encountered. I know women with sexual interests exist but haven't experienced any of that potential. For that matter, off hand I don't personally know any men that have in the recent past had affairs, other than reading posts here and there.
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Post by northstarmom on May 28, 2019 22:08:02 GMT -5
Handy said: “Bottom line, do some women engage in affairs? Yes but none that I have encountered. ”
How do you know you haven’t encountered such women? Maybe they have affairs but you don’t know. Women tend to reveal such info only to their closest women friends. I’ve certainly known such women. Sometimes it was surprising such as when I went to a 5 year anniversary party at which the wife did a lovely solo dance for her husband. So romantic except that the woman’s friend told me that the woman’s lover was there. She married him a few years later after she divorced. What you think you know may not be the reality.
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Post by Handy on May 28, 2019 22:36:28 GMT -5
Nnorthstarmom, I know I really do not know much about other peoples past, current, or secret love life.
The female peers I do talk to play down wanting a special man in their life. Yes, they like men that are handy doing repairs of sorting out problems, an occasional travel or eating out companion. That is about all they share with me. Maybe I need to say something about my lusty side to get a few to open up.
I know me being married and most not wanting to throw a monkey wrench in existing relationships limits what most women will share or talk about.
I did hear a very few "we got married because I was pregnant" but that too is a rare event.
What I read on this forum and what I listen to IRL, are two different worlds.
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Post by northstarmom on May 28, 2019 22:42:07 GMT -5
Handy, from what I’ve seen, the most prudish in old age are women who were promiscuous in their youth.
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Post by Handy on May 29, 2019 0:02:06 GMT -5
NSM
the most prudish in old age are women who were promiscuous in their youth.
I am not surprised. I went to a church where the minister was on the wild side and something life threatening happened to him. He was what I call a "Bible Thump-er" "God said it and that settles it." Problem was he didn't always practiced what he preached.
I will have to start asking a few questions about some past activities, without being too intrusive.
I know one woman that is only 16 years older than her first child and another woman said she was impressed with her boyfriend's car and some 120 mile an hour drives. The speed limit in the state was "reasonable and prudent" at the time, not an actual number. 85 or 90 MPH was considered reasonable, but not 120 MPH. They eventually married.
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