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Post by baza on Apr 1, 2019 23:34:26 GMT -5
These 10 below were the first 10 to join the group 2 years ago and make at least one post - and where known, what happened to them. unhappilyisolated - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive dirtdigger - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive tomcrucker1 - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive kal - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive xroad - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive appleaday - last posted Mar 2018 - left* ilongforsome - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive jen09 - last posted Apr 2017 - inactive orangepeel - last posted Feb 2018 - inactive merrygoround - last posted May 2018 - left with 8 of them - inactives - we don't know what happened to them with 2 of them - we know they left their ILIASM deal* And again, no known cases where the ILIASM situation was "turned around" * = revised in light of members advice of today 15th March 2020
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appleaday
Junior Member
Posts: 95
Age Range: 36-40
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Post by appleaday on Mar 15, 2020 1:19:04 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I haven't been on in a loooong time. For an update, it was a rough ride, but I ended up leaving my marriage. My spouse admitted to being asexual, though he honestly didn't know prior to us getting married. Our divorce is final next month and we are in a very amicable co-parenting situation. Everything honestly went really well. I feel no resentment, though obviously it hurt like hell. I understand it was hell for him too, and that he would have wanted to stay married if I were happy.
I am now in a committed and happy relationship. I learned so much through my experience in my marriage. I learned to say what I want, express my needs, and in general keep communicating. My new partner is absolutely great at communicating with me as well. It is really wonderful being able to connect physically, and emotionally, and feeling safe and loved enough to know I can express my emotions without fear of breaking the relationship. Not to say our relationship has been perfect, we have had our growing pains and I am sure we will continue too. There is no one I would rather be on this journey with now though.
Thank you all for he support when I was in the thick of it. I also went through counseling and it really helped me keep sane and work through the pain and transition.
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