I used to work with a guy who did not drink. It was a real mans industry with a heavy drinking culture. He would come out and drink his orange juice. He never explained, he never justified. He ploughed his own furrow. Why explain or justify your reasons for dancing?
Post by angeleyes65 on Feb 21, 2019 20:34:09 GMT -5
I'm glad you found other options. I love to dance. I go out at least a couple of nights a month. I don't have your confidence to go out alone. I go with a friend. I will dance alone though. Have a blast!
I'm at the club. The dance floor is empty and I'm dancing for everyone who wishes he/she were here! lol! Empty dance floors don't bother me. My band is in the house and there's no one to bump into! It's music therapy time! 💃💃💃🎶🎵
Rhapsodee, I hope you don't mind me stepping out of bounds.
I hate to think of you in that prison you seem to keep yourself in. You started making a connection and then crushed it because of .... I'm not sure why. What a horrid way to live. Seems like you're torturing yourself. Without connection. We're social creatures, and you've always struck me as being more active, healthy, and even social than the average. Way More? Heck, you're out dancing!
I'm not suggesting you need to have an affair, but connecting with a man won't hurt you. Particularly if you keep it honest and simple.
When someone shows interest in you and asks if you're single, just tell them:
I'm married, but my husband is a dick, No, that's wrong.
I'm married, but my husband has been laid up in a nursing home for 30 years. That's a lie.
Yes, I am married, but my husband doesn't feel compelled to share interests or activities with me. He's not caring enough to even mind me out here dancing and talking with you. Care to dance? This explains the circumstance simply and honestly. It will likely prevent the complicated stuff you don't want, while allowing the connection that I think you need as a human being.
@creelunion, no you’re not stepping out of bounds. I thank for your supportive words.
I live within set boundaries but I don’t feel it is a prison. I think I’m keeping a level head. I don’t want to burn any bridges.
I’m keeping myself fit and healthy and ready for whatever comes my way. If my life should suddenly change, I don’t want to be caught unprepared. I have established a social network of both single and married people. I have activities I enjoy.
When I’m out dancing or hiking, and I’m asked why I’m out without my husband, I tell them he doesn’t mind that I go out dancing and hiking without him. We have an agreement
- I will return home every night. - I can flirt but not “test drive”. - I will go where I say I’m going and stay there.
I do get hit on a lot. I don’t break rule #1. Never get sexually involved with anyone you socialize with. People talk. You never know who knows who.
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petrushka: Thank you! Had a great party with the boardgamers group (and BBQ, cakes and cards!)
Jan 18, 2020 20:14:00 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! Sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate
Jan 18, 2020 22:10:28 GMT -5
frednsa: yaaaaiiiiiieeeeoooooouuuuuuuuuueeeeeeeekkkkkkkkk ! OK, if feel better now.....
Feb 29, 2020 18:14:01 GMT -5
petrushka: Glad you got that off your chest ;-)
Mar 6, 2020 23:35:38 GMT -5
worksforme2: It is a sad day here in my small town, the only cinema has closed...it's probably close to 30 miles to get to one now...
Mar 7, 2020 19:48:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: Since our esteemed governor has declared a state of emergency here in NC (a total of 12 cases so far) the hording of toilet paper has begun. Is diarrhea a part of covid 19? I see Lowes and Home Depot have quick install toilet retro fit bidets.
Mar 13, 2020 10:34:57 GMT -5
petrushka: I've no idea what it is with the toilet paper hoarding. I walked out of a supermarket yesterday and saw a woman with the jumbo sized trolley and some 4x 18 roll packs of toilet paper. Nuts. Completely nuts. Incidentally, a bidet is definitely the way to go
Mar 14, 2020 6:18:43 GMT -5
petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5