snowman12345...My question would be what made the doctor feel free to suggest an HIV test to your W? Did she not think to ask him? If the Dr. was concerned about your W being exposed to an STD he should have 1st spoken to you about it and what you were doing to protect her. If he wasn't satisfied with the answer then he could have spoken with your W.
His conversation with my wife is still a confidential encounter - the only reason I know about it is because she told me. He never told her why he suggested it, that was a question she asked me. I explained that I was exposed to blood and body fluids daily and I may have contracted HIV without knowing it. As my infrequent intimate partner; it makes sense for her to be tested too. This is all true enough, but there are now other risks to consider.
As an aside, I have a new doctor to whom I have confessed my wandering lust. My wife also came to this same doctor who suggested to her she may want an HIV test. She confronted me with it asking why he would suggest it. I told her that in my profession it is only sensible to be tested frequently and that being my partner means she also should get checked. All of which is true, but not the only reason for her to be checked.
Your doctor is an asshole for doing this. He should have offered this explanation to her. Also he used your confidential patient information in a way that has put you in a compromising position. You should find a new doctor immediately.
As to your wife's inquiry, you could have said,"I have no idea. Did you tell him that since you won't fuck me it doesn't matter?"
Post by northstarmom on Apr 25, 2019 8:29:37 GMT -5
I continue to wonder whether your wife has been having affairs, the doctor knows this so suggested that she get STD tested. Since she knows you have the same doctor, she may have feared the doctor suggested that you get STD tested due to your wife’s affairs. She may have given you a bogus story to find out if due to the doctor you suspected your wife of having affairs, I had a friend whose wife displayed little interest in sex with him. He accidentally learned that his wife had been engaged in picking up and having sex with sketchy men.
njsojourner , I also started outsourcing, looking specifically for married women. I figured that married women in the same situation would understand, and, married women want different things than single women. They'd also be less likely to make waves in my personal life, since they would have as much to lose.
Of course, that all fell apart when I had a weekend trip planned with my long distance AP, I was out of excuses as to why I would be out of town, and my give-a-fuck was broken. The thought of giving that up was far more devastating to me than the thought of blowing up the marriage.
I should have mentioned that I travel a fair bit for work and my outsourcing has been limited to travel trysts, especially when I can meet the same married woman in a city I go to often. However, recently I decided I would try someone near my hometown but not in the immediate area because I don't want to wait. I know that raises the risk level but I will be very careful. So for me: married (unless she is a special single lady, LOL) and into NSA get togethers.
Post by angeleyes65 on May 12, 2019 9:43:15 GMT -5
When I was out sourcing I would get checked before a new partner and make them too. I also get checked at well woman. When I started outsourcing there was 0 sex with my now ex. But for people in SM that say they don't have sex with spouse so they don't need to be tested. Just because they aren't having sex with us doesn't mean they aren't having sex. While the percentages are low some are closet gay. Or stopped having sex because they look lost interest but fell for someone else and don't want to cheat on them. I caught my refuser in AFF that's where I got the idea to out source. I think he was just " playing" online as part of his porn addiction but who knows. Frankly if my ex would have asked I would have said we aren't having sex maybe you are with someone else and some STDs can be spread without penetration . Like HIV and herpes. Kind of a stretch but you know they are going to duck away from that conversation. Lol
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