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Post by h on Jan 8, 2019 13:05:44 GMT -5
This is a sidebar issue but it's one that's been bothering me lately and I'm asking for straightforward feedback and advice. We have a whiteboard in our house where we put "to-do's". My wife freely puts items on my list, some of them fairly substantial and she would characterize them as just home maintenance items that we need to do and home maintenance is part of what I do. Except, I never put anything on her side of the board and she doesn't work outside the home. She and some friends were talking about another friend's husband who, horror of horrors, makes his wife to-do lists. "What an asshole" they say. Now, I know the guy and he is an asshole but my wife does to-do's for me all the time and no one finds that to be a problem. Am I just being unreasonable? Sounds like a great big sexist double standard to me. She makes you a list and nobody bats an eye. A guy makes his wife a list and all her friends lose their minds. Start making her a list and if she says anything about it, erase her list for you. Make sure you put "Have frequent, enthusiastic sex with husband" on her list also. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 8, 2019 15:04:34 GMT -5
This is a sidebar issue but it's one that's been bothering me lately and I'm asking for straightforward feedback and advice. We have a whiteboard in our house where we put "to-do's". My wife freely puts items on my list, some of them fairly substantial and she would characterize them as just home maintenance items that we need to do and home maintenance is part of what I do. Except, I never put anything on her side of the board and she doesn't work outside the home. She and some friends were talking about another friend's husband who, horror of horrors, makes his wife to-do lists. "What an asshole" they say. Now, I know the guy and he is an asshole but my wife does to-do's for me all the time and no one finds that to be a problem. Am I just being unreasonable? Take the board down, go outside with it, set it up on two sawhorses, and demolish it with an axe. If your refuser complains, tell her that after she has fucked you every single day for a year, you will consider putting it back up. Then if she says another word about it, file for divorce. Yes.... and no. my experience? Don't even dare to object to things! heaven help you, if you EVER showed a sign of physical aggression!! ( raise your voice, go outside and chop wood, kick something outside) Now you are labeled for life as a bitter, angry, dangerous, person, who can not be trusted around the children! ( you can't control your physical violence, you have anger issues!) Mention sex and.... You are a pervert, that's all you think about! Talk about it open and calmly, then watch the manipulation of your words, the reversal and the blame thrown at you. It's a double bind. You can't win. |
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