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Post by frustrated on Jan 22, 2019 13:58:41 GMT -5
That could be a theory. Knowing him as I do, he's pretty damn frustrated that I bring up the subject (in his mind, way too much). I understand people on the forum want to "save others" from prolonged pain, but I think it's important to remember most of the posting, for me anyway, is about sharing our FEELINGS about our situations. That to me, is where we help each other.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2019 14:27:22 GMT -5
That could be a theory. Knowing him as I do, he's pretty damn frustrated that I bring up the subject (in his mind, way too much). I understand people on the forum want to "save others" from prolonged pain, but I think it's important to remember most of the posting, for me anyway, is about sharing our FEELINGS about our situations. That to me, is where we help each other. Sharing our feelings is important, but I came here for guidance and answers and help. The only way I could get those things was by being willing to listen to what the others (those who came before me) said, even if they were painfully blunt at times. Take it all with a grain of salt and in the spirit intended. I have found this forum to be filled with nothing but supportive, understanding, and caring people. Even the comments that felt like direct shots at me, helped me see my relationship differently and I learned something new about it and about myself.
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Post by northstarmom on Jan 22, 2019 15:15:06 GMT -5
“Not working and otherwise being unable to support yourself at present, does change the game plan frustrated - but not completely.”
Consulting a lawyer could lead to learning you are entitled to alimony or other assistance. It may be to your detriment to get a job before divorcing, in many places, you can learn such info during a free consultation with a lawyer.
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Post by Handy on Jan 22, 2019 15:46:27 GMT -5
NSM Consulting a lawyer could lead to learning you are entitled to alimony.......
Really? From a boy friend?
I agree with the "or other assistance."
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Post by frustrated on Jan 22, 2019 16:42:11 GMT -5
Lol, after two marriages, one with a meth addict and one with a severely abusive alcoholic, I don't believe in alimony. I have always provided for myself, always. Actually made me laugh, so that's a good thing. I choose to stay. Losing my job was a big blow at 58, but it's an opportunity for me. I guess I still feel the connectivity of the feelings support here. No one can possibly know everything about my situation in order to give advice. I bet it sounds like I can't take the harshness, and that could be true. I suppose we can all look for different things here. And that makes a pretty good forum, now doesn't it?
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Post by baza on Jan 22, 2019 20:02:37 GMT -5
Lol, after two marriages, one with a meth addict and one with a severely abusive alcoholic, I don't believe in alimony. I have always provided for myself, always. Actually made me laugh, so that's a good thing. I choose to stay. Losing my job was a big blow at 58, but it's an opportunity for me. I guess I still feel the connectivity of the feelings support here. No one can possibly know everything about my situation in order to give advice. I bet it sounds like I can't take the harshness, and that could be true. I suppose we can all look for different things here. And that makes a pretty good forum, now doesn't it? It is a good forum. Best feature is that any suggestions/observations put forward are for the most part coming from people who have 'been there,done that' or 'presently there, doing that'. And you can take on board anything that resonates with you, and leave the rest. Further, what you contribute to the group is quite likely helping someone else vicariously. It ain't all one way traffic.
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