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Post by angryspartan on May 28, 2016 9:19:43 GMT -5
I think stating a "preference" for younger women is one thing. But drawing a line after which someone will (not may-- WILL) become unattractive to you makes my hair stand up because it seems like a refuser in the making. I'm 48. The man you were talking about pinned his number down to "50". Does that mean if I were involved with such a man I'd have two years left to be "desirable"? I am married to a man who doesn't desire me. He once did. He now does not. And he isn't low libido, he's got plenty of sex drive. Just not for "me". I think searching for a partner with particular characteristics is something we all do. But searching for something that WILL change as the relationship matures is not the same. (IMO) Stating that I prefer a partner who is tall or brown eyed isn't the same as saying I can't abide men with facial lines or an illness. Because those things WILL EVENTUALLY HAPPEN. To everyone. But his preference is shaped by his experience, just like any other petson. I suspect if he had a different wife, he might not hold the same views. I've known/heard of women that like tall men, and/or demand a certain level of intelligence etc. Those are attributed that can't be changed in a lot of cases, yet they were ok to display here. You can't help what trips your trigger. To be honest, I'm seeing a double standard being applied here(im not speaking of you specifically). |
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2016 9:37:33 GMT -5
I think stating a "preference" for younger women is one thing. But drawing a line after which someone will (not may-- WILL) become unattractive to you makes my hair stand up because it seems like a refuser in the making. I'm 48. The man you were talking about pinned his number down to "50". Does that mean if I were involved with such a man I'd have two years left to be "desirable"? I am married to a man who doesn't desire me. He once did. He now does not. And he isn't low libido, he's got plenty of sex drive. Just not for "me". I think searching for a partner with particular characteristics is something we all do. But searching for something that WILL change as the relationship matures is not the same. (IMO) Stating that I prefer a partner who is tall or brown eyed isn't the same as saying I can't abide men with facial lines or an illness. Because those things WILL EVENTUALLY HAPPEN. To everyone. But his preference is shaped by his experience, just like any other petson. I suspect if he had a different wife, he might not hold the same views. I've known/heard of women that like tall men, and/or demand a certain level of intelligence etc. Those are attributed that can't be changed in a lot of cases, yet they were ok to display here. You can't help what trips your trigger. To be honest, I'm seeing a double standard being applied here(im not speaking of you specifically). You say you're seeing a double standard, yet you continue to call out beguiledcinderella's, and other women's, comments. Certainly seems like you are just as guilty of applying the same double standard to me. Just an observation. |
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Post by angryspartan on May 28, 2016 11:21:41 GMT -5
But his preference is shaped by his experience, just like any other petson. I suspect if he had a different wife, he might not hold the same views. I've known/heard of women that like tall men, and/or demand a certain level of intelligence etc. Those are attributed that can't be changed in a lot of cases, yet they were ok to display here. You can't help what trips your trigger. To be honest, I'm seeing a double standard being applied here(im not speaking of you specifically). You say you're seeing a double standard, yet you continue to call out beguiledcinderella 's, and other women's, comments. Certainly seems like you are just as guilty of applying the same double standard to me. Just an observation. I didn't say people were wrong for posting what they like. I think you missed the point |
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2016 11:36:57 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2016 8:53:44 GMT -5
I'm the feeble minded one in my relationship. My gf is off the charts intelligent. Thinks she's not of course. But intelligence is important to me if for no other reason than the ability to carry on an interesting conversation.
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