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Post by wewbwb on May 24, 2016 16:49:20 GMT -5
You're trying to understand something that is not understandable, wewbwb . Stop it before you pull a groin muscle and paramedics have to be called and you have to explain how you ended up in that situation. Sounds a bit like my first long term gf, who fell out of love with me because "our relationship is just too good, we understand each other so well that we know what the other person is going to say to just about anything". To me, that was desirable ... having someone who really understands me, and whom I can understand really well. Ho hum. B.t.w. do you seriously think wewbwb does ALL his thinking with his dick? (I mean 'pulling a groin muscle trying to understand ....' ) ?!?  THEIR ONTO ME!  |
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 16:50:04 GMT -5
petrushka if the little brain fits?  Naw, I know wewbwb is a smarty pants in real life. He's a big ol flirty pants too.
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Post by wewbwb on May 24, 2016 16:51:56 GMT -5
petrushka if the little brain fits? Naw, I know wewbwb is a smarty pants in real life. He's a big ol flirty pants too. If the pants fit. Take 'em off. That's what I always say... |
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 17:07:02 GMT -5
wewbwb, but I'm not wearing any pants.
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Post by wewbwb on May 24, 2016 17:13:12 GMT -5
wewbwb , but I'm not wearing any pants. <------ Cleaning himself. |
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 18:35:17 GMT -5
No he isn't good looking at least to me. BICBW I told her I'm sorry - I cannot help her as he's too stump like. But I did find out an interesting thing - the reason her and I broke up is because she thought I was too smart - I'm beginning to understand that she (and now that I think about, my sister) Like to be smarter then their men. Well okay then... What the hell? Too bad I couldn't introduce her to some of the dumber guys I dated. |
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Post by sojourner on May 24, 2016 21:15:14 GMT -5
The "intelligence" chasm is hard to overcome. Especially intellictual curiosity. Topical knowledge is just a matter of studying the topic at hand.
It is hard for me to even broach the topic of emotional security or anything substantive when her biggest concern is that her manicure session was moved back 30 minutes and it messed up her schedule.
Two different people talking two completely different languages.
Sometimes I wish I were a "dullard" and not inconvenienced by the cognizance of deeper things. Life would be simpler.
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Post by angryspartan on May 27, 2016 22:41:08 GMT -5
I'm a little confused by this thread. Just a few days ago, a guy was crucified for stating a preference he had. Mind you, he said he likes younger women and maybe had another criteria he liked them to meet(can't remember), but it was not a long list.
Now I see laundry lists if what people prefer in a potential partner.
Can somebody tell me why their list is More respectable than his?
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Post by beguiledcinderella on May 28, 2016 2:37:00 GMT -5
I think stating a "preference" for younger women is one thing. But drawing a line after which someone will (not may-- WILL) become unattractive to you makes my hair stand up because it seems like a refuser in the making.
I'm 48. The man you were talking about pinned his number down to "50". Does that mean if I were involved with such a man I'd have two years left to be "desirable"?
I am married to a man who doesn't desire me. He once did. He now does not. And he isn't low libido, he's got plenty of sex drive. Just not for "me".
I think searching for a partner with particular characteristics is something we all do. But searching for something that WILL change as the relationship matures is not the same. (IMO)
Stating that I prefer a partner who is tall or brown eyed isn't the same as saying I can't abide men with facial lines or an illness. Because those things WILL EVENTUALLY HAPPEN. To everyone.
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Post by DryCreek on May 28, 2016 3:59:26 GMT -5
I think stating a "preference" for younger women is one thing. But drawing a line after which someone will (not may-- WILL) become unattractive to you makes my hair stand up because it seems like a refuser in the making. I'm 48. The man you were talking about pinned his number down to "50". Does that mean if I were involved with such a man I'd have two years left to be "desirable"? I am married to a man who doesn't desire me. He once did. He now does not. And he isn't low libido, he's got plenty of sex drive. Just not for "me". I think searching for a partner with particular characteristics is something we all do. But searching for something that WILL change as the relationship matures is not the same. (IMO) Stating that I prefer a partner who is tall or brown eyed isn't the same as saying I can't abide men with facial lines or an illness. Because those things WILL EVENTUALLY HAPPEN. To everyone. And this is kinda the point I was making elsewhere... that certain criteria make us feel threatened. Particularly, ones that we're headed to and can't control. But of them, "younger" is a particular hot button. Interestingly, people don't see "older" as a threatening criteria, but the other half of that couple is someone who's dating "younger". I get your point about declaring a hard "expiration date"; nothing is black & white, and even studies can only speak in squishy generalizations. In the particular example, I didn't read it as such, but rather "as of today, the cutoff for me is X" - which is a fair statement, even if you don't agree with the criteria. Many folks seemed to read it as "over age X is bad, period" - which would be rightly offensive, but not what I read. At the same time, a person's preferences are theirs alone; in reality, it's a rare case to realize a large age gap, so the only person being limited is themselves. (Unless he is a 89-year-old billionaire, in which case a 26-year-old Playboy model will eagerly marry him.) And for the record, we guys have a load of our own hot buttons. Even when things are good at home, there's the concern that W will be lured by someone more handsome / fun / successful / powerful / wealthier. Of course, these are all great attributes for a woman to seek, but there will always be someone who's "more something" than we are too - those differences become more stark as we age, often outside our control. |
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Post by wewbwb on May 28, 2016 7:49:28 GMT -5
It is possible to confuse age with maturity. I do know people in their 30 who appreciate life as if their in their 40.
If I made that mistake, or gave that impression i apologize.
I did react to a hard line statement that may not have been there.
But to me -only me- if someone says "i only date 30 yo women" i think that is a myopic view of life and love. The same way that saying "i want to win the lottery"is limiting choices from "i want to be wealthy"
I simply feel a better statement would be "I want to find a woman on the same page that I am in life with the same goals"
Again, only me, I think that may be a less limiting view point and a "healthier" (whatever that means) place to start.
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2016 8:51:45 GMT -5
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Post by wewbwb on May 28, 2016 8:54:56 GMT -5
Stop making sense, NY wewbwb . Only because we're both drunk. |
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