We got to the point where the only contact we had was him occasionally giving me a quick peck on the FOREHEAD. Like I was a child. That’s all he could bring himself to do. It was horrible.
While you get the peck on the FOREHEAD, do you get the forward lean? That's the move that earns credit for affection, and yet it is the defensive move against hands around the waist. It's a classic.
Oh absolutely. No option for me to touch him even if I wanted to (which I didn’t towards the end anyway).
And I told him at one point that I hated when he kissed me on the forehead because it made me feel like he was treating me like a child. He stopped and went back to pecks on the cheek for a month or two and then right back to it. At that point I decided all I would offer him again was my forehead because: fuck him.
Nope, no kissing here either save for the dry peck on the cheek which really belongs in the context of greeting your granny. Kissing is the thing I used to miss the most, and have been known to ask for ‘being kissed like a woman’ for my birthday in lieu of a gift. (You guessed it- fell on deaf ears). In common with many posters above I have now moved to a point where this level of intimacy now feels pretty unwelcome with H as I continue to distance myself emotionally in preparation for my new life. This does not mean that I am off kissing, not at all. I do hope that before I die I get to once again experience the undiluted joy of an enthusiastic making out session, preferably including a roaming hand up my jumper too. It doesn’t seem so much to ask.
The ex-wife used to give me a peck before bed every night, but after many years of rejection and strictly no intimate kissing tolerated by her, I started unconsciously turning my cheek at some point and hadn’t even realized I was doing it until she called me out on it years later, all the while she countinued the routine. At this point an intimate kiss would be wonderful, but I'm sure I'd be at least a bit anxious and awkward after not doing so for decades. I willing to die trying though!
I still remember the first time I French kissed a girl. I was 12, she was 15, and she initiated. It was most the amazing thing at that point in my life! We were in Europe, and it was an amazing few months before she moved back home.
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JonDoe At this point an intimate kiss would be wonderful, but I'm sure I'd be at least a bit anxious and awkward after not doing so for decades.
I was thinking about the same way. I suppose gradually working into a hot romantic kiss is one way to approach the activity. Some women will go for it and some won't. Going slowly gives you the opportunity to test the waters.
At your age there should be some takers on hot kissing.
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petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5
wewbwb: jerri the average intelligence of the end posts rose greatly since I stopped posting ! Hope allis well!
Sept 26, 2020 7:29:23 GMT -5
jerri: Don't be too busy to post. Come back, wewbwb! 💜
Sept 26, 2020 20:12:33 GMT -5
Handy: Jerri, you bring intelligence, so stop that nonsense.
Sept 26, 2020 20:19:03 GMT -5