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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 8, 2018 10:15:04 GMT -5
So I leave you kids alone for a weekend and this thread took a sharp left turn deep into hijacksville.
Have we gone to far off to get back on topic?
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Post by elkclan2 on Oct 8, 2018 13:27:15 GMT -5
csl - the men's rights movement - isn't really about men's rights. It's about bashing women. If it were about men's rights it would be more concerned with matters that actually affect men rather than made up villainy of women. Feminism has had its share of wackos - to be sure - some of whom were more about hating men than enhancing the lives of women. I personally have every interest in promoting good quality lives for men. I am partnered with one. I have a son and two step sons. I have a brother. If these MRA's supported real issues instead of trying to put women back in their boxes (they're really big into gender determinism and the superiority of men) then I'd be all ears. But they aren't. Uh-huh. And Feminism isn't about women's rights, it's about bashing men. Very easy to make blanket statements, isn't it? I don't think I DID make a blanket statement. My ex got really sucked into this - I have spent a lot of time going over those sites. It's not a kneejerk statement on my part. Look, I know I'm just an internet stranger - but I have spent years looking at the MRA movement - you've spent a few minutes by your own admission. I did it because it was directly affecting my life in a really negative way.
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Post by elkclan2 on Oct 8, 2018 13:27:40 GMT -5
So I leave you kids alone for a weekend and this thread took a sharp left turn deep into hijacksville. Have we gone to far off to get back on topic? Why don't you give us an update on your profile and what's been happening.
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 8, 2018 13:44:02 GMT -5
Not much going on from my end. Been busy unfortunately. I have made some semi connections, but the app messaging interface is terrible and so communications is slow. I have managed one off app connection with really great chemistry. And we chat about everything and anything. But very heavy sexual undertones. Its a fun exchange. But not local so not really an AP candidate. We both know that and accept the chatting for what it is and wont be. I am not in a hurry to rush into an AP relationship btw. This is a long game for me. I have heard anywhere from 3 - 9 months time frame. I am comfortable with that. I see this first month or two as a first phase to get to learn the ropes sort of speak. Updated profile below. Thanks to all my ILIASM peeps for the suggestions. Critique away. ---- Dipping a toe into the darkside. This isnt my first rodeo, just new to the apps. So here it goes. Me. 47, high libido, married. Well established in my career, DDF, non smoker, social drinker. Well travelled. Known to be witty and a decent conversationalist. Physically, Im 5'11 mild dad bod (not by much) but heading in the right direction. Brown hair, brown eyes. My primary relationship has become increasingly sexless, dead bedroom, whatever you care to call it. If I have to explain it then its probably not a good match. To be clear, I am not looking to break up my family and would prefer someone in the same boat. I'm not looking to date more than one woman; I'm seeking a exclusive discreet friendship so I can get to know you, and we can experience many levels of friendship and intimacy. Ideally we can see each other 2 or 3 times a month but have daily contact, chatting, joking, flirting. I want to be the reason you smile when you reach for the phone. You are married (and not looking to leave) 35-50ish. Exasperated with the dead bedroom experience. Looking for something more to drown out the silent lonliness of the daily grind. You are DDF. Physically - I have no preferences. With regards to age, appearance, personality, I believe it's all about the connection and chemistry.From what I can tell, online connections are a sh*t show. But I also know there are good people in bad situations too. If this resonates with you, don't be shy and send a message hello. Ideally we can chat online or email to get to know one another. Could lead to casual friendship and conversation or something beyond. My preference is for someone within 2hr radius for a potential encounter. But I wouldn't discount an online buddy if the energy is right. I should be clear that absolute discretion and OpSec is a must. So I leave you kids alone for a weekend and this thread took a sharp left turn deep into hijacksville. Have we gone to far off to get back on topic? Why don't you give us an update on your profile and what's been happening.
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Post by sadkat on Oct 8, 2018 17:07:19 GMT -5
Aw, daddeo! You had me at “I want to be the reason you smile when you pick up the phone”. Good for you!
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Post by javba on Oct 8, 2018 21:16:26 GMT -5
Dude I'm just copying this over if and when I return to AM
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 9, 2018 2:04:06 GMT -5
As one review said " you will be bombarded by young women in their 30's from around the country running scams and plots, ignore those" There are also men on there, like you who are testing and learning. So how do you know if Mrs. Promising who is not a local isn't really a man? Once I offer to send them a picture of my drivers license and ask them to do the same, I no longer hear back from them. Hi GC. I meant to respond to this earlier and forgot. The point about catfishing ( someone pretending to be someone they are not) is well taken. To me, these approaches are fairly obvious and I filter then out. Usually something in the response seems "off". This could be choice of words, cultural references, or contextual reference. For instance one response I received started with "I’m atikatu by name". Who the hell says that? Another tell tale sign is the too good to be true pictures, or out of town response with some combination of the above. I can say I have seen a lot more than driver's licenses pictures. For anyone who has talked to me and there is some basic level of trust knows that I seem to have a knack for sexual innuendo. Women can pick up on this instantly. If the woman is uninterested or not attuned, the innuendo goes ignored. And I simply back off. But Id say unscientifically 90% of the time, its like unlocking a secret passageway where you move the conversation towards a sexual nature. Once there, if you read the cues right, conversations and pictures get interesting really fast. Hence my reference to seeing alot more than just driver's license. I know its hard to believe but its true. If you would have told me a year ago this is possible, I would not believe it. One recent online "fling" I had went as follows. Potential local AP responded to ad, we chatted a bit. Exchanged facial pictures, made small talk about our lives and situations. The next conversation on a separate day got sexual. Innuendo was heavy all through out the day sporadically (between meeting, lunchtime, commute, etc.). When we were finally chatting in real time that evening, both of us were fairly worked up. With a few timely and effectively worded statements she got off pretty intensely more than once in a 10 minute messaging exchange. Women like the smut talk if you can set the right conditions. That said, the online sexting or "cyber whoring" as one lady called it is not all that exciting or important to me in the general case. It can be fun and entertaining but to me it's not the end game. I will say that when I first forayed into this world, I did meet a few special folks who I interacted with for which the sexting had a different feel. These interactions were transformational and essentially rescued my self esteem. They also reset my views on what women want sexually. These interactions did have some element of emotional connection I was seeking
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 9, 2018 2:12:53 GMT -5
You killing me smalls! Dude I'm just copying this over if and when I return to AM
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Post by elkclan2 on Oct 9, 2018 2:51:00 GMT -5
Oh dude - you NAILED it. That is exactly the kinda guy I would send a message to or at least view multiple times so he'd know I was interested.
It took me a long time and few false starts before I found my long term AP. There was one other guy who I also really connected with but he had too much guilt. I have mixed feelings about choosing that path, but I think in the long run it was the better thing for me to do. And I honestly believe that it helped me be ready for my current partner. I know that's not the path you're intending.
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Post by gashino on Oct 9, 2018 22:13:38 GMT -5
Not much going on from my end. Been busy unfortunately. I have made some semi connections, but the app messaging interface is terrible and so communications is slow. I have managed one off app connection with really great chemistry. And we chat about everything and anything. But very heavy sexual undertones. Its a fun exchange. But not local so not really an AP candidate. We both know that and accept the chatting for what it is and wont be. I am not in a hurry to rush into an AP relationship btw. This is a long game for me. I have heard anywhere from 3 - 9 months time frame. I am comfortable with that. I see this first month or two as a first phase to get to learn the ropes sort of speak. Updated profile below. Thanks to all my ILIASM peeps for the suggestions. Critique away. ---- Dipping a toe into the darkside. This isnt my first rodeo, just new to the apps. So here it goes. Me. 47, high libido, married. Well established in my career, DDF, non smoker, social drinker. Well travelled. Known to be witty and a decent conversationalist. Physically, Im 5'11 mild dad bod (not by much) but heading in the right direction. Brown hair, brown eyes. My primary relationship has become increasingly sexless, dead bedroom, whatever you care to call it. If I have to explain it then its probably not a good match. To be clear, I am not looking to break up my family and would prefer someone in the same boat. I'm not looking to date more than one woman; I'm seeking a exclusive discreet friendship so I can get to know you, and we can experience many levels of friendship and intimacy. Ideally we can see each other 2 or 3 times a month but have daily contact, chatting, joking, flirting. I want to be the reason you smile when you reach for the phone. You are married (and not looking to leave) 35-50ish. Exasperated with the dead bedroom experience. Looking for something more to drown out the silent lonliness of the daily grind. You are DDF. Physically - I have no preferences. With regards to age, appearance, personality, I believe it's all about the connection and chemistry.From what I can tell, online connections are a sh*t show. But I also know there are good people in bad situations too. If this resonates with you, don't be shy and send a message hello. Ideally we can chat online or email to get to know one another. Could lead to casual friendship and conversation or something beyond. My preference is for someone within 2hr radius for a potential encounter. But I wouldn't discount an online buddy if the energy is right. I should be clear that absolute discretion and OpSec is a must. Why don't you give us an update on your profile and what's been happening. This profile comes across as authentic!
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 10, 2018 9:23:54 GMT -5
Hi elkclan2I would love to hear more about your AP search experiences if you are so inclined. Im a big fan of learning from those that have traveled the path before you. Oh dude - you NAILED it. That is exactly the kinda guy I would send a message to or at least view multiple times so he'd know I was interested. It took me a long time and few false starts before I found my long term AP. There was one other guy who I also really connected with but he had too much guilt. I have mixed feelings about choosing that path, but I think in the long run it was the better thing for me to do. And I honestly believe that it helped me be ready for my current partner. I know that's not the path you're intending.
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 10, 2018 9:47:57 GMT -5
Ive had a pretty busy week on the connection front (relatively speaking, lol)
Last night alone I received 3 messages and started chatting immediately with 2.
The fake female profile is through the roof. Im estimating 200-300 inbound messages in less than a week. I dont know how any woman would be able to keep up. It probably needs its own thread when I have time. Im guessing the profile is very appealing to the targeted demographic. To be clear I dont engage in chatting. I just look at the incoming messages quickly and peruse the profiles of the senders. Its all over the place. Nerds, romantics, jocks, players, pretenders, and some very lonely guys. Ive even got messages from couples looking for a threesome.
The next step I want to take with the female profile to is change it to something more generic to assess the strength of the profile.
with my real profile, for whatever reason, another trend Im noticing is that I seem to be giving off a vibe that attracts RNs (nurses). I am now up to 5 connections or semi-connections with RNs. The only explanation I can think of is that my profile gives the perception that Im broken and need nursing back to help (terrible joke).
I also received my first block. I was kind of taken aback. I had a really good rapport with a connection for at least 30 mins, which in app dating world is a relationship half life (no joke). After I said I needed to go and said good night, she messaged back to stay in touch, which is pretty innocuous. Immediately after that she blocked. I thought it was funny. Then I wondered if it was something else. Maybe it was a researcher? Or perhaps another dude who is messing around looking for sex talk pretending to be a woman. Who knows. App dating is crazy town.
The other thing worth mentioning is the travel option. What it is basically is for $20 from your credit card (prepaid, refillable in my case), you pick a city where you will be in town, create a custom message, and that message as well as your profile gets sent to 20 profiles in the town you are going to be in. I think I got 1 reply from a very large woman who took the opportunity to reply back to me that she was not interested. The rest were a scattering of pros, sugar babies, and bored housewives types that basically didnt even bother responding. What the travel option was good for from a learning perspective, is that it provides notifications of who viewed your messages and when. What I learned from this is that a lot of the bored housewives type may not check in to the app for 3 or in many cases more days. While the pros and the sugar babies check almost immediately. That observation is intuitive I think but its interesting to see it in action.
Signing off from appland, this is the great pretender.
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 10, 2018 10:36:41 GMT -5
If I were still In my SM and looking to outsource I’d reply to that revised profile..
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Post by surfergirl on Oct 10, 2018 12:10:48 GMT -5
As a real-life AM user, I had a couple false starts, but I did meet someone WONDERFUL in the end. Since I divorced and he stayed married, we ended our sexual relationship but we still text almost every day.
The overwhelming feedback I received was that my pics were fake. (This wasn’t true.) So don’t underestimate that there might be beautiful women in sexless marriages, too. You can tell by the write up that I was real, and it sounds like daddeo has a good filter.
Good luck! I don’t regret it at all. In fact, I’ve had 100 times better quality of men from AM than anywhere else. If I could ignore the fact they are married 😳, I’d be super tempted to go back. Much better selection.
Think about it. The single pool is swimming with men that women dumped. (Generalization, I know.) At AM, at least there is someone who wants to stay married to him. Just my observation out there.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 10, 2018 14:11:16 GMT -5
If I were still I’m my SM and looking to outsource I’d reply to that revised profile.. Where's the rape stories? Is this a fucking joke?
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