I need an affordable house to rent for the kids. 3 bed. SM gets worse I need a 2 bed, I'll sleep on the sofa. SM gets worse I'll wait till kids leave, then rent a cheaper place SM gets worse I'll get a shitty bedsit SM gets worse I'll move back in with my parents.
All of these choices at some time have been a factor in staying stuck in my SM
I am now literally considering moving back with my folks, which also means loosing my job, just to get out.
Finance Vs happiness / sanity / health is relative.
Agreed sanity is important. However we cannot get one day back. So sanity coupled with a reasonable time frame.
Do we set an example for kids? I'd asked one of mine if that's a marriage they'd keep. The answer was no.
In my jurisdiction Sister sweetplumeria , you would take [both your and your spouses's] last 3 years worth of tax records, and every other relevant bit of financial information you have to show the asset/debt situation, income/expenditure information you have. You would also have thought through what you would like as far as custody / visitation issues in regard to minor kids, plus other matters relevant to your post married life. Sept 14, 2018 9:02:43 GMT -4 worksforme2 said:
...You can also research articles on divorcing and child custody or support. ... things like insurance and financial responsibility for medical/dental costs and holiday custody should be part of the discussion. IRA/401K's division should also ...
When dispensing advice to consult a lawyer, maybe these preliminary steps would be a good addendum.
If they do see a lawyer, this prep work will make the 30 minute consultation more valuable and taking these steps may seem less drastic.
"I didn't call a lawyer... just getting ready if I ever feel like I have to. That's not so bad, is it?"
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