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Post by northstarmom on Sept 3, 2018 9:48:53 GMT -5
Psychology Today article with interesting implications for the single and for those coupled. “Across many research studies, insecure attachment is associated with greater odds of being single, or if partnered, being in unsatisfying relationships. And not surprisingly, people who report troubled relationships with their parents tend to have more difficulty in adult relationships. Along related lines, secure attachment is associated with a greater chance of being partnered, and if partnered, enjoying a satisfying relationship. Taking it a step further, they report that anxious attachment and avoidant attachment predispose to singlehood via different paths than does secure attachment. Accordingly, the third model they discuss is singlehood stemming from secure attachment, a conscious choice. This is the least understood, least researched, and least established form of singlehood.” www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201808/the-art-and-psychology-being-single%3Famp |
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Post by baza on Sept 4, 2018 3:29:16 GMT -5
Thanks for the link Sister @northernstarmom . I don't recall hearing much about attachment styles until Sister surfergirl raised the subject a few months back. It's interesting stuff. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 5, 2018 20:13:09 GMT -5
I remember some stuff about attachment and attachment style from back on EP. I don't recall who posted it, but I took some of it to my therapist. She said, at that time, that attachment style issues are really seen in childhood. That cracked me up. She was taught that, I guess, but I couldn't get over the idea - - what do you think, that I just grew out of my childhood problems? (I really wanted to analyze my now-Ex's issues in this area, but I seriously suspect I have attachment issues too - she wouldn't have it, didn't want to examine that angle)
So I'm glad to see that the literature treats it as a real issue for adults - - because I know I still have attachment issues. I am working on them, but it's kind of slow progress, by my own measure.
I wrote a paper about attachment theory for a class a few semesters ago.
On an unrelated note, I will work the next 6 weeks on a paper about sexlessness in marriage. Fancy that. At least the SM experience has paid off in topics for Psych class.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Sept 27, 2018 7:08:50 GMT -5
I remember some stuff about attachment and attachment style from back on EP. I don't recall who posted it, but I took some of it to my therapist. She said, at that time, that attachment style issues are really seen in childhood. That cracked me up. She was taught that, I guess, but I couldn't get over the idea - - what do you think, that I just grew out of my childhood problems? (I really wanted to analyze my now-Ex's issues in this area, but I seriously suspect I have attachment issues too - she wouldn't have it, didn't want to examine that angle) So I'm glad to see that the literature treats it as a real issue for adults - - because I know I still have attachment issues. I am working on them, but it's kind of slow progress, by my own measure. I wrote a paper about attachment theory for a class a few semesters ago. On an unrelated note, I will work the next 6 weeks on a paper about sexlessness in marriage. Fancy that. At least the SM experience has paid off in topics for Psych class. How is your paper coming along? Would you be willing to post it when you are done? |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 29, 2018 21:33:00 GMT -5
My paper topic morphed. I can post the older paper on attachment (was basic, but graded well).
This session, the research question has now become: Would (routinely) adding psychosexual therapy to prostate cancer treatment reduce divorce rates for survivors?
There is a lot of interesting reading- and I love “blowing the minds” on my 20-something classmates in the discussions.
I’m using phone just now but I’ll try to post some of this info in the next few days or this coming week or so.
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Post by elkclan2 on Sept 30, 2018 11:53:51 GMT -5
I have no doubt that my inappropriate attachment styles - or whatever other bad relationship juju I got out of my childhood led directly to my SM. Sometimes I still don't get how I ended up in such a good relationship, but I did and I am grateful. But I know I did a lot of self-reflecting and some therapy before I got in this one.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Oct 2, 2018 12:17:33 GMT -5
I don't know how to post a PDF file. I have my "Attachment" paper in Word format (has my full name though) and in PDF (personal identifiers removed).
I'll offer this: if someone really wants a copy, I'll see if I can send it using the Message part in this forum.
My assignment was to review all of the info (Class = Child Welfare) - so only the last 25% or so is about attachment theory applied to adults. I found it very absorbing though, how adult attachment style affects parenting. And those who "stay for the kids" may also find that information enlightening. The References page may be the most valuable portion of the paper, honestly.
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Post by elkclan2 on Oct 9, 2018 2:55:17 GMT -5
@geekgoddess - you can upload a pdf to a hosting service and then provide a link. I know it's a faff, but you can preserve anonymity that way.
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