Just found this forum this morning. Found it incredibly illuminating. Brief history of what has brought me here. I've been married for 42 years, I'm 61, W is 63. While not a sexless marriage by the common definition, it is nowhere near what I desire or has been in the past.We separated for five years early in our marriage over the lack of intimacy,reconciled.Intimacy and sex life was great for roughly 1-2 years and has gotten progressively worse since. Many fights over the years over this, am currently in a place of it not worth fighting over anymore. I am currently being treated for depression in large part due to this. W knows this is why, and is bothered by it, but apparently not enough to do anything to help other than encourage therapy. Current frequency is once a week if I push for it, has been up to a month w/o if not. I usually initiate once a week, just to keep her from being suspicious of my having an affair,(have that in our history as part of the separation) but find it increasingly difficult to care. Looking forward to making friends here and working things in my marriage through to a solution I can live with. Leaving isn't an option to me morally, but roommate status has certainly been considered. Any way looking forward to interacting here with others.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5