Post by northstarmom on Apr 5, 2019 21:39:41 GMT -5
handy said: "So, I have to decide if I want to fight back or just ignore her nasty comments and just tell her "what ever" or something less passive aggressive like "I see your point" or "yea-OK" and continue on about my own business."
The more productive decision would be to decide whether it's worth it to spend the rest of your life living with such a woman. You don't seem to think you deserve better than being with a woman who treats you like shit.
NSM, most of my life I have done things for other people. A few people do things for me. One issue I have is I am sort of like that guy that gave you the printer. I have often operated under the thoughts that I had to earn at least part of a friendship or be of some type of value to someone I want to be friends with. Sometimes I might even reject someone doing something for or with me mostly over this idea I need to earn it, but earn it on what I see as valuable. That is my equivalent to a Lucy's psychiatry booth answer.
Yes it would be more productive spending less time over thinking the current situation and make better plans for MY future.
Post by northstarmom on Apr 6, 2019 6:42:21 GMT -5
Handy, you can choose to change. It’s not easy but it’s possible if you allow yourself to realize that giving and giving to others who treat you like shit is not in your interest and is allowing you to be stuck in a life that isn’t what you want. If you choose to change, you will have support here.
Post by greatcoastal on Apr 6, 2019 9:34:28 GMT -5
Just a side note: When it comes to "change" I think about my elderly parents/relatives and the time in their life when "the big change" came down to deciding to move to a retirement home. The plus was ,all the new people to communicate with daily, instead of the one rejector you have been with ,dealing with for far to long.
petrushka: Thank you! Had a great party with the boardgamers group (and BBQ, cakes and cards!)
Jan 18, 2020 20:14:00 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! Sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate
Jan 18, 2020 22:10:28 GMT -5
frednsa: yaaaaiiiiiieeeeoooooouuuuuuuuuueeeeeeeekkkkkkkkk ! OK, if feel better now.....
Feb 29, 2020 18:14:01 GMT -5
petrushka: Glad you got that off your chest ;-)
Mar 6, 2020 23:35:38 GMT -5
worksforme2: It is a sad day here in my small town, the only cinema has closed...it's probably close to 30 miles to get to one now...
Mar 7, 2020 19:48:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: Since our esteemed governor has declared a state of emergency here in NC (a total of 12 cases so far) the hording of toilet paper has begun. Is diarrhea a part of covid 19? I see Lowes and Home Depot have quick install toilet retro fit bidets.
Mar 13, 2020 10:34:57 GMT -5
petrushka: I've no idea what it is with the toilet paper hoarding. I walked out of a supermarket yesterday and saw a woman with the jumbo sized trolley and some 4x 18 roll packs of toilet paper. Nuts. Completely nuts. Incidentally, a bidet is definitely the way to go
Mar 14, 2020 6:18:43 GMT -5
petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5